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GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life
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GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life 16 Jul 2019 13:16 #342325

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Hey guys I hope you're well!!! I had the merit of finding an awesome awesome book called, "The Battle Of The Generation." It's wealth of knowledge on the topic and life in general has helped me tremendously and continues to help me fight the fight with the RIGHT mindset constantly inspiring me. I highly recommend it to anyone. There's a free PDF available on GYE already but I'd recommend the physical book so you can take notes/highlight/underline etc sections. It honestly has been a game changer for me and I'm forever grateful to the author. It is also HIGHLY recommended by a humble genius in todays generation Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier founder of TheShmuz.com (Reason I'm religious from the heart today.) Here is the link guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation?category_id=149

Re: GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life 19 Jul 2019 17:50 #342415

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I also read this book and I found it so helpful! Check it out. It's life-changing!

Re: GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life 12 Aug 2019 17:36 #342807

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Loved this!

The truth is that any negative self-image we have is probably inaccurate. Our battles are challenging, and as long as we are trying to succeed, we should not be too hard on ourselves. Although we might think that if others knew what we were struggling with they would look down on us, that is not true. Most people would empathize with us, and though unfortunately a few people might belittle us, it is only because they have never experienced our challenges and can’t understand what we are going through. If they had been challenged, they might have fallen worse than we have. It is impossible for them to know they would do better, and they are making a mistake when they belittle our challenges. Ultimately, however, Hashem created all challenges, and He knows exactly what goes on. He knows we want to do good, and He never looks down on us or rejects us.

(From Chapter 5 of The Battle of the Generation.)

Re: GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life 14 Aug 2019 21:01 #342862

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It may also be that there is awareness that so many people struggle or have struggled with the issue that they would not dare belittle one dealing with these issues. In fact they themselves may have "tasted" it too, albeit to a lesser degree. Secondly, my little experience speaking with people here has shown me that the fellows in shul or elsewhere who mock the rabbonim pushing filters, or cracking jokes about guys who "need GYE", are often broken souls who themselves are deep deep in the pit. Due to their yi'ush they don't believe others can stay clean or become clean; hence the need to "knock". 
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Re: GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life 15 Aug 2019 01:11 #342864

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Thanks. I'm new to GYE but I'm loving it and I'm loving this book. I'll post some more exciting snippets later.

Re: GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life 15 Aug 2019 04:23 #342866

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This was great! So inspiring!

(From Chapter 5) 

Hashem values all our efforts to do the right thing despite the extreme difficulty we face. He is even impressed (in His way) by what we have accomplished.

            This point is stressed by the Gemara (Sukkah 52a), which relates that after the arrival of the Moshiach, Hashem will slaughter the yetzer hara. The yetzer hara will appear before the tzaddikim as a mighty mountain, and they will cry and say, “How did we ever conquer such a mighty mountain?” And Hashem (if it could be) will wonder along with the tzaddikim, as the posuk says (Zecharya 8:6): “So said Hashem, ʻAs it will be wondrous in the eyes of the remnant of this people in those days, so too will it be wondrous in My eyes.’” Hashem is amazed (if it could be) by the good we have accomplished in battling the “mighty mountain.” Hashem approves of all the good we do and is immensely proud of us.

Re: GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life 15 Aug 2019 21:50 #342882

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great posts . which book is this btw?
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Re: GREAT HANDBOOK TO BATTLE TAYVA/Understanding Life 15 Aug 2019 22:51 #342883

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It's called The Battle Of The Generation. I love it! It really changes your perspective on fighting tayva.

Check it out here:
guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation?category_id=149
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