Welcome, Guest
A platform of recovery for Jews who find themselves struggling with addictions to pornography, masturbation or other sexual problems. Post anonymously about your struggles without fear of anyone finding out who you are. Ask questions, post answers and be inspired! Get tips and guidance from the experts who moderate this forum, as well as from fellow strugglers.
  • Page:
  • 1

TOPIC: need advice 251 Views

need advice 28 Aug 2018 00:28 #335027

  • samwine
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 3
  • Karma: 0
i have a rare addiction to  voyeurism it is to watch people urinate have you any advice

Re: need advice 28 Aug 2018 00:32 #335029

  • cordnoy
  • Current streak: 1234 days
  • NOW ONLINE
  • Moderator
  • I'm sailin', for I've got to be free
  • Posts: 11019
  • Karma: 501
Many of us have our unique fetishes; how is the rest of your life?
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads: Mikvah Night, Tryin'
115, 91, 158, 133, 148, 1234 ...???
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE WRITTEN AS A SIMPLE LUSTAHOLIC; THEY ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: need advice 28 Aug 2018 00:46 #335032

  • samwine
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 3
  • Karma: 0
i sometimes fall and let it takeover like spending much time surfing the net for this sort of stuff or even finding places to go and watch etc it sort of gets hold of me to go and do that

Re: need advice 28 Aug 2018 02:36 #335036

  • mzl
  • Current streak: 107 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 646
samwine wrote on 28 Aug 2018 00:46:
i sometimes fall and let it takeover like spending much time surfing the net for this sort of stuff or even finding places to go and watch etc it sort of gets hold of me to go and do that

Do you have unfiltered access to the internet? And what sort of places? Public restrooms?
mzl@gmx.us
Last acted out around 6/8/2018

Re: need advice 28 Aug 2018 03:47 #335040

  • Hashem Help Me
  • Current streak: 647 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 1553
  • Karma: 100
Welcome. It should be with hatzlocha. It doesn't really matter what your desire is for, just how to in general get control or surrender control. Read the handbook, the forums, and see what speaks to you.
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com
The following user(s) said Thank You: Gevura Shebyesod

Re: need advice 28 Aug 2018 05:39 #335049

  • lionking
  • Current streak: 40 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 512
  • Karma: 64
mzl wrote on 28 Aug 2018 02:36:

samwine wrote on 28 Aug 2018 00:46:
i sometimes fall and let it takeover like spending much time surfing the net for this sort of stuff or even finding places to go and watch etc it sort of gets hold of me to go and do that

Do you have unfiltered access to the internet? And what sort of places? Public restrooms?

Mzl,

Correct me if I am wrong. I don't think fleshing out all details about someone's particular fetish on a public forum is healthy for anyone.

Samwine,

We all think we are some unique piece of thrash. We knock ourselves down as being the only insane person dealing with this. I've got my own fetishes to deal with. However, I have figured out I don't need to deal with it, I need to deal with life. Stress, work, family, bills, frustration, etc...

Hatzlocha Rabba!
My email address is: growinghigher613@gmail.com
The following user(s) said Thank You: mahachatasa

Re: need advice 28 Aug 2018 09:49 #335051

  • mzl
  • Current streak: 107 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 646
lionking wrote on 28 Aug 2018 05:39:

mzl wrote on 28 Aug 2018 02:36:

samwine wrote on 28 Aug 2018 00:46:
i sometimes fall and let it takeover like spending much time surfing the net for this sort of stuff or even finding places to go and watch etc it sort of gets hold of me to go and do that

Do you have unfiltered access to the internet? And what sort of places? Public restrooms?

Mzl,

Correct me if I am wrong. I don't think fleshing out all details about someone's particular fetish on a public forum is healthy for anyone.

Samwine,

We all think we are some unique piece of thrash. We knock ourselves down as being the only insane person dealing with this. I've got my own fetishes to deal with. However, I have figured out I don't need to deal with it, I need to deal with life. Stress, work, family, bills, frustration, etc...

Hatzlocha Rabba!

I wasn't fleshing the details. I was just trying to understand if he is getting in harm's way.
mzl@gmx.us
Last acted out around 6/8/2018
The following user(s) said Thank You: lionking, samwine

Re: need advice 28 Aug 2018 11:08 #335055

  • samwine
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 3
  • Karma: 0
i found the analasis of mzl healthy obviously without going into gory detail .it helped me to feel no longer alone . i have a proper filter on my home pc but when i fell last month i bought a cheap tablet and then threw it away . any ideas how to stop that sort of fall .
the other part of this addiction has caused me to hang around in town very late at night causing damage to the next day etc there are obviously many inappropriate sights and later i cannot understand how i could have overlooked how wrong it is for me to even have gone to such places
The following user(s) said Thank You: mzl

Re: need advice 29 Aug 2018 12:48 #335127

  • Jman356
  • OFFLINE
  • Junior Boarder
  • Posts: 37
  • Karma: 4
Not sure why you call it rare? Is it bc you've done much research? More likely it's because you feel it's rare. Which makes you feel badly about yourself, how disgusting you must be if you like something so "gross". 
I found myself oddly attracted to that genre on porn sites as well. I kind of just went with it and figured everyone has their thing that they're into. Which is true. 
For me at least I've really only seen actual porn once or twice in the almost 4 years I've been married and I found that with distance this fetish (if you want to call it that) faded to the point that Idk if I'd even find it exciting (probably would). But the point is that I don't feel I need to see that specific genre anymore. I'm still struggling with movie and TV show scenes, but there's no urinating in those and I haven't felt that I'm missing anything. 

In short, my opinion is that if you put some distance between you and porn, the longer you go without it the less you'll need your "strange" fetishes. 
The following user(s) said Thank You: cordnoy, Hashem Help Me, lionking, mzl, samwine

Re: need advice 31 Aug 2018 03:43 #335184

  • Workingguy
  • Current streak: 673 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 1060
  • Karma: 125
I just want to point out that it very much actually DOES matter what one’s fetish may be. There are fetishes that can get one in to trouble with the law; if someone starts trying to peek on people in places that they can expect privacy, they can get. Arrested.

Same with other types of exhibitionism and voyeurism. And so  that would make it more urgent to seek help for.
The following user(s) said Thank You: Hashem Help Me, samwine

Re: need advice 31 Aug 2018 09:50 #335187

  • mzl
  • Current streak: 107 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 646
Workingguy wrote on 31 Aug 2018 03:43:
I just want to point out that it very much actually DOES matter what one’s fetish may be. There are fetishes that can get one in to trouble with the law; if someone starts trying to peek on people in places that they can expect privacy, they can get. Arrested.


Or worse.
mzl@gmx.us
Last acted out around 6/8/2018
The following user(s) said Thank You: samwine

Re: need advice 14 Sep 2018 12:45 #335497

  • dannylevy
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 1
  • Karma: 0
at this time of the year a very definite resolution about avoiding PLACES that cause a nisoyon works wonders . i have done this with a friend for 5779 and i hope besiyata dishmaya to keep you informed that i am keeping it please join me  
The following user(s) said Thank You: Hashem Help Me
  • Page:
  • 1
Time to create page: 0.46 seconds