I (almost) forgot, I listened to a 1/2 hour shiur that Yaakov, the founder of GYE, 
gave at the Agudah Convention a few years ago.
It is AMAZING. Sums it all up in a 1/2 hour. Wow!
guardyoureyes.com/GYEFiles/MP3s/GYE%20at%2090th%20Agudah%20Convention.mp3

Following in shua's footsteps, I am posting this to get it off my chest which will hopefully help me better cope. Last night i had a vivid dream about sleeping  with a coworker & today im feeling a bit out of sorts, like overly easily stimulated. At first I felt like it's not a slip because it's a dream & completely out of my control.  There was a banana peel on the ground and I slipped on it. Then I realized that if this person made it into my unconscious, maybe it's because I've had one too many glances at her during my waking hours, in which case the one who placed the banana peel on the ground was none other than myself. I used to find this person attractive but as I got to know her I found her more and more repulsive. Apparently there's still a level of attraction there. 

I would say it like this:
The Peel is the Yetzer Hora who want you to slip and fall already as you used to find her attractive. In therapy they usually say that when you have a dream and recognize that person it means a person you do not know - maybe a fantasy playing in your mind.
Your Job now is for sure to keep strong and make sure you don't fall for his Ploy.
Good Luck

Lifnei Hashem,
You are human after all. Thank you for coming out of your shell. Of all people, one of the longest streaks among and very few personal posts. Until I read your post, I thought I was the only one in the world who fantasized about sleeping with girls (especially coworkers). Was yours frum? Mine was and I was told via email by a therapist/rebbe in CAPS: YOU ARE PLAYING WITH FIRE! EISHES ISH! I was MZL over her. As I wrote, some tragedies in my life have put some distance between us...for some better and some worse.

Not sure I understand hud's post. I believe that dreams are nothing more than show what is on your mind and I have many rabanim to back this.
Some older kollel person would ask people to do hatavas chalomos very often and I always said I did not have the time. If you are mamash nefesh agmah alav, Just say the tefila during bircas kohanim (Bnei EY and sefardim have more opportunities than ashkenazim). I once approached a Rebbe. I had a dream that the recipient of my question was niftar and I said I had a dream that A rebbe past on. He said the Rosh Hayeshiva Rav ___________ was mevatel all dreams.
It does show you what you think about and worry, though

quiet wrote on 29 Dec 2016 14:05:

Those of us who are workin' on managin' our lives couldn't care less if the woman was frum, single or in a relationship with a member of the Aztec tribe.

Shua,

I agree to everything in your post, but the goal of the FINAL 12th step is to help others as well.

All,

There is along history of issues between the rosh chabura and myself, but I am sharing one thing I gained in anger management last night:

So, I consider my self a Talmid Chacham and asked my Rebbe if I should learn Rashi or Rashbam when learning Arvei Pesachim. My rebbe emailed back: both. When our dictator rosh chaburah decided we were skipping around perakim and learning 10th perek, I forwarded my Rebbe’s email as an FYI about a month before we started 10th perek.

Then, THE NIGHT we started, he pulls me over and says “we are only learning rashbam”

I was bothered and felt it was a chutzpah and too lazy to write out why.

Bottom line, whether rosh chabura is correct or not, maybe it was insensitive of me to send him the first email. Maybe he thinks, “who am I to suggest how HIS chabura should run.

This was an important lesson to help me understand other people’s perspectives.

I like reading shorter posts so I am going to break the next one into another post. I got scared when I saw Shua’s long one, but I am a dedicated kotz, but I needed a night of sleep first

hudaugen wrote on 29 Dec 2016 13:41:

They usually say that in therapy!?

II highly doubt it.

If you have a vivid dream about someone you know, it is most likely that you do know her/him/it (geez, I can't even believe I am makin' this point), and most likely that you are thinkin'I about her/him/it in a sexual, lustful manner durin' the day.

Welcome Hud, I don't recall seeing your name before. 
I am mekabel on myself bli neder not to even see this person at all today. Since we are a group I encourage everyone to join me and make your own extra guarding eyes Kabbalah (everyone on their own level) for today only in honor of Chanukah and this group. Please participate,share and be mechazek!

Yosef,
There is a forum dedicated to fixing bugs here
Their job is to fix all kinds of problems.


Maybe we should post about Karma there as well

I asked what does nistares meelav mean by Potifar.

I always thought it meant he mulitated himself which bothered me.

I asked a GYE admin in shul this morning and he said (whether physically altered or medicated by Hashem, HASHEM made him unable to properly have tashmish which resurrects the sifshei chachmim’s kasha – how did he have tashmish with his wife

quiet wrote on 29 Dec 2016 14:38:

Damn! A minyan of sex addicts! And I get stuck with the Moonies!

Sorry to hear about all that.
May God be with you.

Spewin' stuff on this site against an av beis din is not really appropriate. It is obviously your opinion and one with plenty of bias. I am not sayin' one way or the other, but this site is where you should post that life is gettin' you down, and hopefully people can help pick you up.

B'hatzlachah

Hi Chevreh

Sorry for not participating so much in the conversations the last few days, Has been quite hectic including Chanuka, and im trying a new Geder, as i have seen that posting takes away a lot of my time in work (when i should do other things - like working for an eg...) im trying not to use the net at all for my personal use in my work hours.

But i enjoyed reading everything on email (in a certain way it is better, coz i get a chance to think of what im reading - and not of what to respond).

Ok so now a small update

29 days! B''H passed 4 weeks, Getting to a month tomorrow BE''H.

Got a new signature line!Song by: Menachem Moskowitz; Album: Shmo Shel Melech
Composed by: Meshilem Greenberger.

English translation - for those who dont understand Yidish

Going off for the weekend. will have no access to the net.

Will be missing you all, but i think ill enjoy the quiet, without all the other things included in the web package.

Good Shabbes Chanuka.

​BTW this Friday Rosh Chodesh Shevat, we are starting a new project! the SHINING SHEVAT. please join and lets do it together!!!!!!!!