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TOPIC: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 20707 Views

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 08 Jan 2015 01:09 #246792

DuddyM OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 41 Karma: 2	Easier said then done but its for sure the Truth.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 08 Jan 2015 01:27 #246794

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	oh duddy hello maybe you can help me create a prayer for the women in mind, as i need one for myself thanks
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 08 Jan 2015 01:42 #246796

DuddyM OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 41 Karma: 2	Maybe have more Kavanna in the Tfilah שתצילינו היום ובכל יום ...מאדם...ומיצר...ומשכן רע... ו but i doubt that this is what Dov means he means and talks about A Tfila for Her Health, Mental and Social Etc.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 08 Jan 2015 04:15 #246798

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	exactly i am tryin to do them dov tefileh i need your 2 sense
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 09 Jan 2015 04:37 #246851

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Maybe this will be useful to you? I'm new here. I've set myself to read aloud each day one Principle and one Tool, in order. Reading it aloud helps me slow down and pay attention.

This is what I read on the discussion of Tool 3 (I think): As someone who is working the 12 Steps once wrote:"Today, the fight is much easier for me. When I have urges, I admit powerlessness, acknowledge that Hashem is the only One that can - and will - help me, and I ask Hashem to remove the lust from me. I am frankly surprised by how much better this works than fighting the urges head on".

I have a constant problem because my work takes me to schools and nursing homes in the non-Jewish community, where most staff are female. Today, I was at a nursing home, writing my visit note, when I glanced up and noticed that of the 6 staffers 10 feet away from me, 5 were female...and young. I mentally asked HaShem to take away my improper thoughts. It worked instantly.

Best of luck to you and all of us.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 09 Jan 2015 05:09 #246854

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	wow! gevaldig! dear duudy i need your help!
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 11 Jan 2015 20:30 #246953

DuddyM OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 41 Karma: 2	GM reb Shmeichel wonder what help i can offer u? im here tzadik

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 12 Jan 2015 17:57 #247043

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	i need you to compose a tefileh for my poor soul a prayer to god, in which i pray for that wonder women that everything should be good and perfect for her, in every aspect of her life
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 13 Jan 2015 20:22 #247101

DuddyM OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 41 Karma: 2	isnt it easier to try not to think at all from her>???

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 13 Jan 2015 22:18 #247108

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	in the short run, it might be easier but in the long run, no its not!
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things! Last Edit: 13 Jan 2015 22:19 by Shmeichel.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 23 Jan 2015 20:19 #247577

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who knows the real truth?
1 thing is that i know for sure...
for sure life is much easier and less stress without her being in it (not every second scared that ill be caught or so)
even its hard to avoid, and to look away.....

so let put it that way:
hard to live all without her, but much much harder with her, believe me guys

but the thing is when the addiction works up, we forget the real emes

Last Edit: 23 Jan 2015 20:22 by DuddyM.

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 23 Jan 2015 20:28 #247578

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	so we have to avoid the addiction from working up, for any price how can we do that? any idea?
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 23 Jan 2015 20:32 #247579

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by giving up our lives thoughts and fantasies to hashem and realizing that he can wants and will take these nissyons from us IF we give them to him

Hashem these lustful thoughts are not mine I don't need them or want them please take them from me so I can live a happy and healthy life

Gotta roll with the punches or the punches will roll all over you

yesterday was
tomorrow will be
the only thing you can change is the moment you see

keep smiling and keep busy

"lust is fire to dynamite don't get close" from someone don't remember who

The worst thing i did to myself was lie to myself for 2 whole years

I try not to hate it takes way to much energy

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 30 Jan 2015 20:49 #247942

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	duddy how are you? thinking about you
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Any1 can relate to me? Issue: Neighbor on my Block 30 Jan 2015 21:04 #247944

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he's fine; don't worry about him; he should stop worryin' as well.

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