Hi,

I'm looking for a bit of help!

I'm a bochur who has struggled for a long time with hirhurim and shmiras eynayim - before I knew it was wrong. B''H I never succumbed to anything worse. I often feel like my attitude is a problem - the more I feel like I need to fight, the harder it becomes - often tznius things can be problematic as well!
B''H I don't believe that I suffer as severely as some of the levels mentions in the Handbook - but I do accept that I have an issue with hirhurim!

I'd love as much help as I can get!

are you a teen?

there is a thread just for you.

b'hatzlachah

where?

I am a teen, but older than 14-17 (which is the age group specified for the teen corner), so I thought it best to post here.
Thanks

WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I get you with the more you fight it, the harder it gets. I agree and that why i try not to even step in the ring! Once we enter the battle, we are done! Kaput!

Check out Skep's tips for some good ideas about changing our attitude

Here is the link for teens:
Teen Thread

I do not know why it says until 17.
I will try to have that changed.
I do understand that in certain worlds, once someone hits 18, they are more mature or whatever, but here, it should be more general.

mr. Onwayup, post there please as well.

thank you

b'hatzlachah

WELCOME OWU! Hirhurim and histaklus are pretty common, especially at your age. I am not condoning it. I just hope that maybe it will take the edge off. Guilt in this area is generally not healthy and just leads to more hirhurim. So relax a bit, realize that it's normal.

Try to avoid it by filling your time and thoughts with positive things. Try to avoid having too much down time, especially alone (The Y"H feasts on loneliness and boredom). Learn, have a hobby, exercise. Try to remain active with good things, espcecially if you can do it with friends.

Let us know how you are doing.