cordnoy wrote:
hatzlachah onward
I am also on day 6 (after a fall on day 115, after a big fall on day 60).
what do you do to those thoughts when they enter your mind?
thanks and hatzlachah
When those thoughts are coming, I try to stop them before they are "installing" into my mind and I begin to fantasize on them. If I take too many time to react, it becomes more difficult to detach from them.
I don't try to fight them directly : I think to Hashem, and I ask him to take my battle, to do the battle for me because I am only flesh and the Yetser Hara is fire, and flesh is consumed by fire... I'm a dependant, and only Hashem can save me from lust !
If the thoughts insist, then I try to concentrate on a good memories (a walking with my wife, something with my children...) or on a music that I like. If I am in the train, I try to concentrate on the scene that is unfolding before my eyes (but in the subway, this isn't possible...)
For me, the important thing is not to concentrate on these thoughts, and especially, not to fight them face to face (it's like somebody that says to you "do not think at an elephant" and, inevitably, you think at an elephant even if you do not want...)
I had some difficults moments when a no tzniut girl is in front of me in the transports, the thoughts could be too hard to fight... So I take my mp3 player from my pocket and I listen to calm music (like The Kumzitz Album of Shwekey
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) and I concentrate on it.
Or I rely with all my strength on my toes, it take out for some seconds all these thoughts from the head, it's like an emergency button.
Those tricks work for me when the thoughts are just coming. It the thoughts are installed in your head and you are fantasizing on them, I think this is a little late for all these tricks, and it's time to move on to stronger measures...
abe68 wrote:
Great to see how good you do, after a fall we need to stand up, if i was able to stood up after a fall of years, i will be able to get up again bez"h.
One thing we should never forget: talking to hashem is easy, he is very close to us, what do you think, he is close to a goy? he is close to us, כי רוצה ה' בעמו' he wants us, he calls us, and he will take us back soon!
Thanks
I try to talk to Hashem many times, especially in the difficult moments, because in these moments Hashem is more near to us, although the Yetser Hara wants us to believe otherwise :Hashem wants that we call him for help, with all our strength !