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Re: Tryin' 29 Aug 2019 20:36 #343240

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great quote from stillgoings signature-FSKOT! (Fell Shmell--Keep on Trucking) (The Rebba R' Bards),i fell after 8 years,chazak!
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Re: Tryin' 02 Sep 2019 19:25 #343347

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cordnoy wrote on 29 Aug 2019 18:42:

Gevura Shebyesod wrote on 07 Jun 2019 03:20:
Wow it’s been a while since you last posted here.
Did I see something in that list about finding a lost Cords?

I'm not sure if I'm lost, but.....
After 4+ years of sobriety, I fell.
About 5 months ago (extremely enjoyable, and sadly, I'd probably do it again, if the opportunity arises).
The past 2 weeks as well. Not so enjoyable, and I would like not to do it again.
Three days good.
No real plan yet; we shall see.

Thanks

It takes courage to post that buddy. You have been a tremendous inspiration to the chevra here and iyh will continue. I recently heard a drosho from Rav Ades from Eretz Yisroel where he said (in Hebrew) "In every aspect of Avodas Hashem there will be nefila. It's part of the process. Our avoda is to as quickly as possible get back up and move on". Keep on inspiring by showing us how to do exactly that!
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Re: Tryin' 10 Dec 2020 17:05 #358512

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cordnoy wrote on 29 Aug 2019 18:42:

Gevura Shebyesod wrote on 07 Jun 2019 03:20:
Wow it’s been a while since you last posted here.
Did I see something in that list about finding a lost Cords?

I'm not sure if I'm lost, but.....
After 4+ years of sobriety, I fell.
About 5 months ago (extremely enjoyable, and sadly, I'd probably do it again, if the opportunity arises).
The past 2 weeks as well. Not so enjoyable, and I would like not to do it again.
Three days good.
No real plan yet; we shall see.

Thanks

Some make an  erroneous conclusion that if someone fell after years of sobriety, that means the program he was workin' must be a failure. That is incorrect. Firstly, maybe it wasn't for him. Secondly, maybe he didn't work it correctly. Thirdly, and the most important of all, is that it depends on how he proceeds from there. There are many avenues he can take, some good, and that will be a product of his time and efforts in workin' that program, and some will be negative, and, quite possibly, despite of his program workin'.

Personally, whether I fall or not, I have gained tremendously from GYE, SA, the 12 steps, the books, the camaraderie of others, mussar and much more.

Godspeed to all
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: Tryin' 11 Dec 2020 05:38 #358543

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As a typical nudnick, I want to know what's the "much more"
My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)

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Re: Tryin' 14 Dec 2020 20:03 #358696

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Hakolhevel wrote on 11 Dec 2020 05:38:
As a typical nudnick, I want to know what's the "much more"

That's a good question; can't think of anythin' specific right now.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: Tryin' 14 Dec 2020 20:21 #358698

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In the spirit of nudnick, what made you post this now?
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Re: Tryin' 15 Dec 2020 22:04 #358790

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mggsbms wrote on 14 Dec 2020 20:21:
In the spirit of nudnick, what made you post this now?

i saw that i was bein' used as an example of people usin' gye for a long time and then fallin'. 
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Tryin' 06 Jan 2021 05:46 #360686

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You should be used as an example of people usin' GYE for a long time, through good times and not as good times, and still stickin' with it.

Not like those other "old timers'" who completely vanished. Maybe some are still fightin' the good fight, but many are probably not. 

As they say, "the road to secret old timers' forum is paved with..."

Actually, I'm not sure what it's paved with, but if anyone gets there, make sure to drop us a line.
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Re: Tryin' 06 Jan 2021 14:11 #360710

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Bigmoish wrote on 06 Jan 2021 05:46:
You should be used as an example of people usin' GYE for a long time, through good times and not as good times, and still stickin' with it.

Not like those other "old timers'" who completely vanished. Maybe some are still fightin' the good fight, but many are probably not. 

As they say, "the road to secret old timers' forum is paved with..."

Actually, I'm not sure what it's paved with, but if anyone gets there, make sure to drop us a line.

"Stickin' with it" has its ups and downs. Sorta like life. Sorta like marriage. Sex, learnin', business, raisin' kids. 

Dat's livin' I guess. 
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Tryin' 07 Jan 2021 14:42 #360764

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Bigmoish wrote on 06 Jan 2021 05:46:
You should be used as an example of people usin' GYE for a long time, through good times and not as good times, and still stickin' with it.

Not like those other "old timers'" who completely vanished. Maybe some are still fightin' the good fight, but many are probably not. 

As they say, "the road to secret old timers' forum is paved with..."

Actually, I'm not sure what it's paved with, but if anyone gets there, make sure to drop us a line.

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Last Edit: 07 Jan 2021 14:42 by stillgoing.

Re: Tryin' 07 Jan 2021 15:54 #360768

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You should be used as an example of people usin' GYE for a long time, through good times and not as good times, and still stickin' with it.


Not like those other "old timers'" who completely vanished. Maybe some are still fightin' the good fight, but many are probably not. 


As they say, "the road to secret old timers' forum is paved with..."


Actually, I'm not sure what it's paved with, but if anyone gets there, make sure to drop us a line.
I'm stillgoing....



 
Welcome back SG. Long time no see? 
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I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash

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Re: Tryin' 07 Jan 2021 18:54 #360782

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Hakolhevel wrote on 07 Jan 2021 15:54:
You should be used as an example of people usin' GYE for a long time, through good times and not as good times, and still stickin' with it.


Not like those other "old timers'" who completely vanished. Maybe some are still fightin' the good fight, but many are probably not. 


As they say, "the road to secret old timers' forum is paved with..."


Actually, I'm not sure what it's paved with, but if anyone gets there, make sure to drop us a line.
I'm stillgoing....



 
Welcome back SG. Long time no see? 

sorry to take an issue with HH ,hes a great poster, but...are you inferring that if youre not on gye  youre probably not fighting?
i think you didnt mean that.
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Re: Tryin' 07 Jan 2021 18:59 #360783

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sleepy wrote on 07 Jan 2021 18:54:

Hakolhevel wrote on 07 Jan 2021 15:54:
You should be used as an example of people usin' GYE for a long time, through good times and not as good times, and still stickin' with it.


Not like those other "old timers'" who completely vanished. Maybe some are still fightin' the good fight, but many are probably not. 


As they say, "the road to secret old timers' forum is paved with..."


Actually, I'm not sure what it's paved with, but if anyone gets there, make sure to drop us a line.
I'm stillgoing....



 
Welcome back SG. Long time no see? 

sorry to take an issue with HH ,hes a great poster, but...are you inferring that if youre not on gye  youre probably not fighting?
i think you didnt mean that.

oops sorry HH, it looks like you were quoting big moish, my apologizes .
BM, are you inferring that if youre not on gye anymore you probably arent fighting?i strongly disagree with that statement,do you have that opinion based on your own experience?
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Re: Tryin' 07 Jan 2021 19:25 #360784

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sleepy wrote on 07 Jan 2021 18:59:

sleepy wrote on 07 Jan 2021 18:54:

Hakolhevel wrote on 07 Jan 2021 15:54:
You should be used as an example of people usin' GYE for a long time, through good times and not as good times, and still stickin' with it.


Not like those other "old timers'" who completely vanished. Maybe some are still fightin' the good fight, but many are probably not. 


As they say, "the road to secret old timers' forum is paved with..."


Actually, I'm not sure what it's paved with, but if anyone gets there, make sure to drop us a line.
I'm stillgoing....



 
Welcome back SG. Long time no see? 


BM, are you inferring that if youre not on gye anymore you probably arent fighting?i strongly disagree with that statement,do you have that opinion based on your own experience?

Nope. He didn't say that. Perhaps reread. Interesting how you inferred that though..

And hello to you too Hakolhevel.
BIG SHOT!
Free Choice?!
Yirai's Memories
STORY TIME :)

Dr. Seuss - You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go.

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Re: Tryin' 07 Jan 2021 22:12 #360796

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stillgoing wrote on 07 Jan 2021 19:25:

sleepy wrote on 07 Jan 2021 18:59:

sleepy wrote on 07 Jan 2021 18:54:

Hakolhevel wrote on 07 Jan 2021 15:54:
You should be used as an example of people usin' GYE for a long time, through good times and not as good times, and still stickin' with it.


Not like those other "old timers'" who completely vanished. Maybe some are still fightin' the good fight, but many are probably not. 


As they say, "the road to secret old timers' forum is paved with..."


Actually, I'm not sure what it's paved with, but if anyone gets there, make sure to drop us a line.
I'm stillgoing....



 
Welcome back SG. Long time no see? 


BM, are you inferring that if youre not on gye anymore you probably arent fighting?i strongly disagree with that statement,do you have that opinion based on your own experience?

Nope. He didn't say that. Perhaps reread. Interesting how you inferred that though..

And hello to you too Hakolhevel.

I also didn't not say it...
Partly based on experience, partly based on knowledge, mostly opinion.
Everyone who came here at some point or another came for a reason. If, after a period of having meaningful conversations and developing real or fake relationships, they completely disappear without a trace, one or more of the following is likely:
1) They began working another program and found the relationships here unnecessary.
2) They do continue their GYE relationships offline (I guess I'll have to ask them privately what's so bad about this place that they can't so much as say hello).
3) They never viewed the relationships forged here as anything of substance.
4) The friends they made here make them uncomfortable and guilty about their acting out.
5) They actively decide to live a lifestyle in direct contrast to what GYE stands for, making it unnecessary to come back.
6) Some combination of the above.

Feel free to add and argue.
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