Hi, I've been clean (no porn) for over 75 days, and I do feel good about that, and hope to continue one day at a time.
The shmiras enayim in the street is also improving.
But I'd love to watch a movie, I grew up in a house with a TV, and this is the way I like to relax. (75 days haven't been movie free, but loads less)
I Know I've read the link to Fishman, (I think) and know he is correct when he talks about those 'innocent' sounding films.
If I'm honest with myself, My slippery slope (re)started (after my wedding) when I started using my home computer for entertainment not just work.
But surely there are some movies which are O.K, like the ones I'll let my kids watch.
watching movies is not in the 90 day rule, but I am nervous.
Avrom

Just wondering: Is it ok to watch movies during Sfira?

MT

When you're watching a movie with even one actress, you're spending time focusing on a woman.

I also grew up with TV and movies. Movies are very fun, and hard to give up. Take it one day at a time, one right decision at a time. I find it helpful not to keep up with what movies are playing, so I don't have as much temptation.

Im pretty sure that my most recent slipping episode was triggered by watching a TV show online that what not a schmutzy show and did not contain schmutz...

except for one quick scene

you know the rest of the story

Is there something more positive you can replace your TV or movie watching with? A project, a seder, a phone call, excercise, music?

Thanks for all your advice
Yes it is tempting, one day at a time is good advice,
but I feel this is a Madreigo, that I'm not ready for just yet.
But I have been Movie free! for a week, Thursday nights and Motzai Shabbos are the most tempting nights, like the cholent guys.

israel613120 wrote:


hmm maybe u should hang out with them then...


hint hint hint


i also like to relax with a video (in my case it's youtube usually) but it does lead to shmutz all the time. so recently iv'e been coming here instead to hang out, and i think that almost any other activity is better than a video, so try to do something else. the kosher isle has some ideas, sometimes i play a game instead of a video but i think that really the best thing is to be either reading something or spending time with real people.

whatever the case is with movies you're doing great with the lust struggle so kutgw.