Shalom workingonme! From reading through your past threads, it seems like you basically you're on the right track as far as proper attitude goes.
I know what it's like to have nonreligious family--I'm 17, but I'll be in YU next year, so Baruch Hashem I'll be in a more religious environment.
For me, the ikkar in my recovery was two things:
#1 Understanding the emotional issues that led me to lust in the first place. I think it was a combination of social anxiety and isolation, which resulted from me going to a public school and not really having too many frm friends that I could relate too. (I totally identify with you. What you are doing right now, being religious when your family isn't, is INCREDIBLE, AWESOME, AMAZING. (My mom is religious, so Baruch Hashem I've had at least 1/2 my time in a religious environment)). If one discovers what gap exists in their life that they need this issue, one can work on solving the gap and thus not need the "solution" any more. An important yesod is that this issue, for me at least, is about "starting to live" by having more emunah, relying on Hashem, getting off the computer, adding more healthy activities to my life, etc.
I think I also used this to ease stress--I was in a stressful, high-pressure academic environment, so perhaps being very busy with school isn't necessarily the penicillin we need. However, free time is also very bad--we must avoid spending free time on the internet.
#2 Filters are essential. It is very daunting to think "oh no, I won't have that for the rest of my life!", so for a while my Y"H had me maintain a few loopholes in my filter. By taking it one day at a time--I'm staying clean for TODAY, the past and future (and even the present
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) are in Hashem's hands, so I don't need to worry about the past or future.
Also, don't be discouraged. It's taken me like a year and a half to get to where I am today, and I'm 11 days clean but very hopeful for the future. GYE is a great place, and I definitely recommend spending time reading through a lot of the posts on this forum, a lot of common questions are dealt with.
I haven't tried phone conferences, but it seems like they're for opening up. I think step 1 is admitting that we have a problem, and that admission requires opening up, saying "I, Robert [that's my first name], have a problem, and I'm not going to try hiding it any longer, because the hiding contributes to the problem in the first place.] I think a forum or email creates distance, but not necessarily a phone conversation.
Anyway, keep us posted! Perhaps try posting on a more regular schedule, or at least go on GYE when you're feeling weak.
--Robert