How are we doing Shlomoy ?  
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How have you been lately ?

Yesodi wrote on 15 Feb 2016 23:28:

You mean "The awesome feeling of knowing that Hashem is in control and taking care of everthing vs. the terrible sadness of the illusion that I am in control while instead being enslaved by the dark side" ?

gibbor120 wrote on 14 Jun 2016 17:43:

Although I understand and also accept the general direction of your "correction," my bottom-line answer to you is: No. I pretty much mean what I originally wrote.

As our sages teach us: "הכל בידי שמים – חוץ מיראת שמים" ("Everything is in the hands of heaven except for the fear of heaven"). The illusion of control applies to 99.9% of the (mundane) "decisions" that we think we are making for ourselves, mistakenly thinking that these too are part of the tremendous gift of "free will" that we have been given.

But in true, moral, decisions such as these -- between Good and Evil, and between "acting out" and NOT "acting out" -- the free choice, and thus also the sense of "control," is (as much as can be said) ... "real."

Yesodi wrote on 25 Aug 1974 02:18:

I believe that what it means that we have the power of choice in terms of yirah shamaim in the context of our addiction means - that we come to the logical and MORAL conclusion that life is unmanageable and need  help desperately. This decision to seek and accept that help can be a case of proper yirah shamaim.
However, in terms of beating our compulsions as they arise in our daily life? We are in this mess because we are powerless. Surely, here and there there may be struggles we can whiteknuckle through but eventually we will fail, right?
We are willing to accept Hashem's sovereignty and dominion. We know he and he alone is truly in charge. This humble acceptance can also be called yira shamaim. In short following the true and trusted program is yira shamaim. However, that we have the power to win each war as it arises is clearly false; proven by  our life experience.
Not only is such an attitude wrong but it is arrogant although our yetzer harah has succeeded in fooling us for years into believing that it is indeed pious to believe so.
It is this attitude that delays us from receiving the assistance that truly works.
 

cordnoy wrote on 28 Apr 2014 06:14:

even if I can't find heaven, I won't walk thru Hell with you.......

But I'll walk OUT with you

When i'm in a lust bubble 90,000 reasons are not enough to stop me, nowhere near. The only thing which can stop me is God which is why i need to get on my knees every morning BEFORE the lust attack and ask Hashem for help.

hashem gave us this special nisoyon and we can give our father in heaven the biggest prize hold back like avrohom ovinu with his nisoyonos

The reasons don't directly help an addict stop. However, it is for these very reasons that he/she seeks out an effective program that will indeed help that individual begin to live properly.

i fully agree with you
thanx for correcting me

If i act out ill get into שאלות over my TAPHSIC shvua. Dont get into שאלות rabosai.

Acting out! acting out! acting out!
Remember this urge that is inside us that push'es us do it! do it!
This is the Yitzer Hora,
So you think to yourself you know what we'l give in now, and leave me alone Yitzer Hora,
Looks like A familyer deal, Right?
Now one's you gave in to him instead of saying Thanks,
He is back again OMG what do you want from me now I already gave you what you asked for?
No No No! that was only the beginning of my plan Shafele, Now comes the real work for me, Now I will use your fall to DESTROY YOU!!!! 
So basically how he works is, The few hours before the fall he is taking over your whole body, makes you do crazy stuff push all the limits to the max [Bt'w if you anytime want to know what you are capable of and what your limits really are try to remember that when there is A will there is A way:}] so you cannot focus on life, kids, marriage, business, and everything that is important to you, Only on the urge.
And then there is the fall, And then after the fall you feel like such A noting that you have no appetite to focus on life, kids, marriage, business, and everything that is important to you, 
So it was so-posed to be A good Shaabas, A good Yom Tov,  A good Simcha, or just another good productive day at work or in your life and here it is all destrrrrrrrrrrroyed!
So, lets take all are kochos together and tell him NO! NO! and one's again NO! 
​I will try again and again and again, I will push the limits, I will try every trick, support, and help that hashem gave me and use them to the best of my ability, 
I will live my life like A yid, and enjoy it like A yid
And with hashems help I will live A good productive clean life!

This is my first post on any forum on GYE.

Think to yourself: Acting out is beneath my dignity. I may have done this in the past, but this is not what I do  anymore. I am more important than that. I am beyond this. 

shevayipoltzadik wrote on 07 Mar 2018 21:31:

So I can't count; you can't have everythin'.