I cant get her off my mind for 2 days after.its crazy and it isnt just a bodily desire i really got close with her we all shair our struggles and i cant help but feel for her

Blind Beggar wrote:


Powerful post by BB (besides all the other gems on this thread; there's a great post by AE as well)

African hunters have a clever way of trapping monkeys.

They slice a coconut in two, hollow it out, and in one half of the shell cut a hole just big enough for a monkey's hand to pass through. Then they place an orange in the other coconut half before fastening together the two halves of the coconut shell. Finally, they secure the coconut to a tree with a rope, retreat into the jungle, and wait.

Sooner or later, an unsuspecting monkey swings by, smells the delicious orange, and discovers its location inside the coconut. The monkey then slips his hand through the small hole, grasps the orange, and tries to pull it through the hole. Of course, the orange won't come out; it's too big for the hole. To no avail the persistent monkey continues to pull and pull, never realizing the danger he is in.

While the monkey struggles with the orange, the hunters simply stroll in and capture the monkey by throwing a net over him. As long as the monkey keeps his fist wrapped around the orange, the monkey is trapped.

It's too bad the poor monkey could save its own life if it would only let go of the orange. It rarely occurs to a monkey, however, that it can't have both the orange and its freedom. That delicious orange becomes a deadly trap.

I realized that the difference between humans and animals does not lie in the fact that animals have such strong instincts; humans have some of the same types of instincts. The difference is our ability to let go of the "orange". Every person has their own "orange", and it's our job to recognize it for the trap that it is and 'let go'.

Beautiful!

thanks

milletry613 thanks
its a very inspiring moshol

We say every day in the morning ומותר האדם מן הבהמה - אין
the addition the man has over the animal is - HE CAN SAY NO, he has the ability to resist the temptations.

belmont4175 wrote:


an alcoholic might have the ability not to walk into the bar, but if he finds himself in that bar, he does not have the ability to say no.

100%
so therefore he has to use all his capability's to keep out of any challenges

Shmeichel wrote:


sadly, that is impossible.
he can keep out of ultra-dangerous challenges, but not all challenges.

cordnoy wrote:


"Where there is a will there is a way"

we are not here in lala land to live a life free of challenges, we continue to grow through the challenges, hoping that in the end we get there.

belmont4175 wrote:


"will" for what?

I suffer from extreme anxiety,doubt, and OCD for years.I must have tried a hundred methods at least seven therapists,all kinds of beeeeeeeep medication.I don't want to live anymore,I don't believe I'll ever get to where I want to get in life,and what scares me is that I find it very hard for me to accept where Hashem wants me to be.I don't want to continue, and I don't want to stop with p&m I enjoy it,it takes my mind off of things for a while.Also all I'm doing the whole day is watching movies,I'm only concerned about two things.first, I don't feel well physically if I masturbate often, so I'd like to not do it except once in three days.Second, I know that I'm in a bad spot and that no matter how I feel things could change if only by my accepting the way I am, so I don't want to do anything I'll regret later,like do something live, or to use money on my pleasures,I don't really care about watching p**n just that it doesn't spiral.My only fear is that this whole parsha with my anxiety and mental suffering is caused gufa by not guarding my eyes and thoughts.If I would know that,p&m is the spiritual cause for my suffering I'll stop, I guarantee I'll stop,cuz I'll pour my heart out to Him and He will save me.But as of now when I believe it can't get worse and there is nothing that can help me (or in Hashems case will) I want to waste my life away on movies and games, but hopefully not do anything that I can't fix. Meuvas shelo yuchal lehisakien.

thank you for sharin'.

Have you posted at all since 2012?

I am glad to have brought back this thread.

How have you been since your saga in the beginnin'?

Wishin' you well.

Nope I haven't posted for quite a while,I haven't let myself have Internet access. I was doing pretty well untill I crashed and I have no idea what changed.

Sorry buddy, for the bad experiences as of late. Its very encouraging though that you were doing great for a while.
Hope you get back into the groove soon.