For guidance in any area of life to be effective, we must find the right mentor. We must choose someone we will feel comfortable speaking openly with. He must be someone who will try to understand us and will be empathetic to what we are going through. We must be confident that he won’t look down on us for our struggles, and that he will make us feel that he’s our ally rather than someone who’s above us. If we are afraid of him or uncomfortable talking openly with him, we won’t go to him for guidance, and we won’t properly express the issue even if we do. We also probably won’t feel satisfied with his guidance, which happens when we don’t feel understood and empathized with. Guidance from such a person won’t provide us with what we seek from a mentor, no matter how brilliant he is. We aim to receive effective advice that relates personally to our lives. That won’t happen unless we can have a relationship with our mentor.
If we find a mentor we can connect with who has experienced the battle, we will have an ally as we fight our battles. This itself will make the task less daunting. We will no longer feel that we are fighting an overwhelming battle alone. The emotional support and encouragement will be so helpful. It will give us the emotional strength and determination to stand up to our desires.
Having someone to converse with about life provides yet another benefit. Discussing matters with someone whose opinion we trust grants us confidence in our decisions. Discussing the dilemma and spelling out our concerns gives us clarity and eliminates doubt. Surely, if this person supports our choice after we explain the situation, we will be comfortable with our decision. We won’t be held back by painful feelings of doubt. And our mentor might have some interesting points or ideas that can help us advance our decision.
Guidance brings us major benefits in all areas of life, and is especially helpful with challenging and confusing matters such as desire. Discussing our progress with the right person might just be the key to our success in the battle of the generation.
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