Victory over lust - one day at a time
I am clean now for over 90 days for the first time. On your congratulating email, it asked me to share what helped me get to 90 days.
Before coming to GYE, I was blind to the extent and depth of my addiction. The word "addiction" never came to mind in all the years I was acting out. GYE taught me about lust addiction and slowly broke me into the idea of real recovery. First, I read the GYE handbook and posted a bit on the forum. Then, I joined your phone conferences. When I finally joined SA (after a great conversation with Dov from the forum - may he be blessed!) I came to the meetings with a lot of awareness that allowed me to feel comfortable with the program.
Today I have a sponsor, a partner, and a long list of recovering fellows who I am comfortable calling and sharing anything with. I am working the steps with my sponsor and am currently at step three. In the meantime, so many things in my life are improving that until I came to the program, I never realized how messed up they were. My relationship with my wife and kids is starting to develop in a great way (sad sentence, as I am married 5+ years and have 3 kids, but true). I am sober over 90 days but am starting to really be able to live "one day at a time." I try to go to at least 5 meetings a week. But most of all, I am starting to be honest - with my wife, children and myself. It is shocking how dishonest I was till now, and gratifying how liberating honesty can be. It sure stunk living a big lie my whole life.
I can't thank you enough for what your website has done for me. I really feel you have given me a second lease on life.