MosheF asks: I am part of a non-Jewish 12-Step SA fellowship. I wish there was a solution to the disease of addiction in yiddishkeit, but to the best of my knowledge there is none. There is hardly mention of the concept of addiction or a solution in chazal or mussar sefor...
Someone asks: I have been doing a lot of thinking, and I noticed that ever since I've stopped "acting out", for the past 2 and a half months, I've just been facing life difficulties which I don't know how to solve, so I am left with bottled up anger. Before 2 and a half...
"London" writes on the forum to someone who believes that Torah and Mussar will be enough to get him out of his addiction: My question to you is simply this: is what you are doing now working, are you staying sober, staying stopped, and leading a purposeful life? If you a...
Dear Guard, Please read my story below. I need advice about what I must do now. My name is Rabbi Moshe, I am a sex and love addict and a kiruv professional. My addiction has progressed to exhibitionism, threatening my parnosso and my sanity. I am also very addicted to por...
Intro from Dov: A guy wrote back and forth with me basically saying that he really wants to change - yet every suggestion that the program has made for him to actually do, he has refused. All he wants is to recover secretly, on his own. He is sure that unlike everybody el...
My wife (the wife of an addict) was referred to go to a group whose meetings are held at 'Church basements'. Is it permissible to step into a church building? I saw the quote of R' Shmuel Kamenitzki, but he's talking of the addict himself - and this is the way he express...
"Snibril" asks on the forum: Chazal say that "everything is in the hands of heaven besides for the fear of Heaven". How does this fit in with the idea that we should just give over the fight to Hashem? Doesn't "free-choice" mean that Hashem gives the fight ove...
I am new on this website. I have now close to 9 months of sobriety and I am very grateful to Hashem for this. It has given me an unbelievable sense of living guilt-free and normal. Until I started the road of recovery, I always felt like a fake, as if I we...
Once I indulge in my vice, I transform. I become cold & unresponsive Completely dependent on continued escapism. It becomes as necessary as food. I think of nothing but escaping. People, my goals, my ideals, G-d, they all fade away. My st...
Someone asked Dov: "I never understood why our Higher Power would restore us to sanity. Someone from SA told me it just works and never mind why." Dov Replies: "Wasn't your motive for desperately searching out and drinking in porn, fantasy and masturbation *always* in or...