You girls simply don't realize how precious and on the mark your conversations and insights are. You are learning to look within yourselves and find what's motivating you for good, as well as bad. You give to each other so selflessly. How many times have the 3 of you woken up at crazy hours of the night to support a sister? Too many to count is my guess. Perhaps one reason Hashem in His chesed gave you each this nisayon, is to bring out the ahavas chinam for total strangers. Because yes; when you began, you had no idea whom the other was, other than a code name and cute avatar. Ahavas Chinam to an unknown sister. Is there anything more beautiful than this?
Personally, I think that someone who is sailing along smoothly is less of a hero than one climbing and falling and climbing again. Hero status in Hashem's book is: "7 yipol tzaddik v'kum". Why couldn't it just say "7 yipol v'kum"? Because Hashem knows better than anyone just how hard it is too keep getting up and moving after constant falls. So in a rare example of explanation and encouragement, He uses the word "tzaddik":
"Yes my beloved son, I know there is nothing harder than what you consider constant failure. And because I understand that - really, I'm telling you that I am not seeing failure from My vantage point of heaven and eternity. I see "tzaddik". Let that help you keep moving forward, even if you keep falling, because you are a beloved tzadik in My eyes. For eternity".
Forget about trying to minimize the bumps of life.
Hashem places the bumps in strategic spots, davka.
Instead, 'let go' of control and learn to enjoy the ride.
(Come on; don't you like roller coasters? So what's a bump or two?)
Sit comfortably in the passenger seat, fold your arms and relax.
Hashem is the in the driver's seat.
And He'll never get you lost!
Be patient with yourself. As you learn how to fill up the hole within yourself, and start to notice the sunshine - even when it's behind a cloud, your need for lust will slowly dissipate IY"H. You have just started a new path. Give it time.