What do you choose to see?
In parshas Chayei Sarah, as Yitzchok goes to meet his future wife, it says, "he lifted up his eyes and saw camels coming." Even though the focus was on marriage, what Yitzchok noticed was the camels. On the other hand, about Esav it says, "he lifted up his eyes and saw the women."
Two people see a similar scene: a caravan of camels, carrying goods and people, but each chooses to focus on what they want to see, or not focus on what they don't have to see at that moment.
Let's train ourselves to be Yitzchoks, not Esavs.