The Only Thing We Need to Know
Having dealt with thousands of people who struggle with lust at all levels on GuardYourEyes, I would like to share with you what I have come to believe is the most powerful attitude to overcoming the Yetzer Hara at all levels of this struggle (and also perhaps the greatest segulah to staying healthy and safe in our tumultuous times).
Disclaimer: Deeply internalizing this truth can sometimes takes many years and a lot of suffering. But the more emunah we have in this principle today, the less time it will take for us to break-free, and the less suffering we will need to undergo in the process.
The idea is really very simple, and it is spelled out by our Creator in the Torah many times: Hashem basically lets us choose our pleasures and our suffering in this world. When we accept upon ourselves the pain of turning away and saying “no” to the Yetzer Hara, we save ourselves so much unnecessary suffering and anguish in other areas in life. When we give up pleasures that we’re not supposed to take, Hashem gives us far greater pleasures in areas that are truly important like health, parnassa and nachas, and of-course, the World to Come. (The story in yesterday's boost is a case-in-point).
Deeply internalizing this truth is ultimately the only way we will be willing to put in the effort that it takes to break free, and whether we like it or not, we must all come to accept this truth sooner or later.
Let us pray that Hashem help us internalize this today so we don't have to suffer unnecessarily, and so that we can enjoy the true pleasures that life-- and our beautiful Torah--have to offer.