Spouses

Dear Balancing, The balance between controlling and stepping back is a tough one for the spouse of an addict. You may want to discuss this more in depth with our spouse experts (see this page). ; ; You could perhaps simply ask your husband straight out if he feels eBay is safe for him? As much ...

; Being in a relationship with a sex addict does bring up the question of do I stay or leave? These questions are legitimate. In this exercise, I want to expose you to some options you may or may not have thought of before. 1. Stay and stay sick - This option is taken by those who do not desire ...

Is It Helping or Enabling? ; You see a disheveled person asking for tzedakka: Is he an alcoholic or drug addict, or just a person down on his luck and in need of a helping hand? Your friend asks you to help him find a job, but to tell the truth, you don’t think your friend is responsible o...

Rabbi Dr. Avraham Twerski wrote to GYE: ; Dear Yakov: A wife said that Elya Katz recommends a week of intensive therapy at a rehab. Her husband's addiction is to porn and masturbation. Is this advisable/necessary? Twerski ; We responded: ; I believe I know who the Rav is talking about. I sp...

Many partners early in recovery don't believe they have any problems of their own. It is the sex addict who has all the problems, not them. Granted, his addiction is usually more devastating and definitely the priority early on for the couple's survival. It takes a while, but usually when the add...

I have been a regular caller on the GYE phone conference for the past six months.Without hesitation I can state that had my husband and I not found GYE, and fully committed ourselves to embracing and diligently working the GYE/SANON program, we would not be currently in recovery, and enjoying...

A relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another. Usually when we say that we relate to someone, it is because we’ve found common ground. But part of relating is finding ways to make ideas that seem different come together. So often when we choose relationships, we try t...

Hello ladies Many of you who were introduce to the program where coming from a place of defeat rather then a place of growth. Shame and guilt was an overwhelming feeling. The first thing that we take from the call (support call for spouses of addicts) is the serenity prayer which contains one ver...

Rebbe Nachman of Breslov taught... From Reb Nosson's Letters: ;"Even while the gates are closed and locked on every side and in every corner—so that one ought mistakenly have thought that there was no hope, G-d forbid—I still believe that there remains plenty of hope! For G-d's c...

Many women who find this site have many questions that need to be answered. Instead of trying to figure it out on your own, here are a few insights from the Codependent / S-Anon support books. Here is a common question that comes up: “How should I deal with my husband when I see that he is acting...