General Rules

1.) Our volunteers review all forum posts, and logs of all PMs and chats on our network (even private chatting) to make sure there is no inappropriate chatting. 

2.) The GYE forum welcomes diverse viewpoints and creativity, provided that they are not in conflict with Halacha

3.) Topics where opinions are strong and which can easily lead to controversy should generally be avoided, especially if they are not related to the issues of this forum (e.g. politics, etc...).

4.) Please try to make your posts understandable to the average reader on the forum. If there are spelling or grammatical mistakes that make your post hard to understand, a moderator may make some minor adjustments to your post to make it more understandable.

5.) Posts may not contain Lashon Horah, disrespect to Talmidei Chachamim or Chazal, Keffirah, or other violations of Halacha.

6.) Vulgar or blasphemous language, even if used in jest or "tongue in cheek," is forbidden on the GYE forum.  Furthermore, posts that are in poor taste may be edited or removed.

7.) No one may post anything that may insult, embarrass or offend another member of the forum. If this happens, the offender should be quick to apologize.

8.) Posts should not contain details (about personal struggles or otherwise) that others may find triggering or contain links to websites that some may find triggering. If a member wants to submit a detailed post that may need to be edited, he should send it to the administrator or to the moderators as a private message.

9.) Please exercise caution in posting details about therapy sessions. What your therapist recommends for you may be completely inappropriate for other people.

10.) We encourage everyone to share what works for them or how they view recovery. We ask, however, that no member "put down," or "prove wrong," or "discredit" any other approaches to recovery that may be working for other members. For example, the 12-step program works well for many members of our community. We have had to block members in the past who repeatedly tried to discredit the 12-step method on our forum, causing a lot of machlokes and confusion. It is OK to ask questions, but it is not OK to continually insist on discrediting any method that works for others.

11.) GYE takes internet safety very seriously. While the need to be cautious is vital no matter where you surf, it is even more important when you are involved in a forum that caters to sex/Lust addiction. The GYE forum is completely anonymous and should remain that way. Posts should not contain any personal information such as real last names (although using real first names is healthy for recovery), email addresses, telephone numbers, or personal websites. Avoid mentioning any information that a third party could use to locate you - your school or shul name, favorite hangout spot, etc. are examples of things not to discuss on the forum.

If you want to share your e-mail address for the purpose of finding a partner or sponsor, please use our partner/sponsor program.

Unfortunately, befriending strangers on this forum can be just as dangerous as in real life - if not more so, since you have no way of verifying their identity and this forum caters to sex/lust/love addicts. As a rule of thumb, never agree to meet in person with someone you met on this forum. If you decide to get to know someone from the forum a little better, demand identification and voice verification before revealing any personal information. It goes without saying that men should NEVER meet women and women should NEVER meet men. This is not just a matter of tznius, it’s a matter of safety. Use common sense and trust your gut. If you suspect something is fishy, report it to a moderator AND stop communicating with the suspect.

Upholding the Rules

1.) GYE moderators are authorized to edit posts that, in their best judgment, are in violation of the above rules/guidelines. "Editing" means removing or modifying the offending language or, if necessary, removing the entire post without notifying the poster.

2.) If you read a post that seems inappropriate, please click "Report to Moderator," and give a brief explanation as to why the post should be edited or removed.  Your report will be kept confidential.  Everyone's assistance is greatly appreciated, as it is difficult to moderate all posts in real time.

3.) Anyone found to be in violation of the rules may be either warned or blocked from the forum, at the discretion of the administrator.


1.) Any post you make on this forum can be used in Chizuk e-mails, posted on our websites or shared in any way (anonymously, of course).

2.) WARNING & DISCLAIMER: If you delete your GYE account, the posts on the forum will remain intact, however instead of showing your original username near the post, it will show the name “Deleted User”. If you’d like to delete any of your posts, you must delete them before you delete your account.