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14 Jan 2018 16:20

youcan

Re: addiction? Anxiety? Something else?
I have gentech through tag.
One thing I don't like is that they started to use non Jews as their representatives, they have no problem opening you anything you ask for (not direct porn sites). BH I never called in with a plan to do wrong things.
Category: Introduce Yourself
14 Jan 2018 16:11

iampowerless

Re: addiction? Anxiety? Something else?
try gentech and Nativ USA all others are quite easy to get through them!
Category: Introduce Yourself
14 Jan 2018 16:09

youcan

Re: addiction? Anxiety? Something else?
I found ways to fall with a k9 filter and with a tag filter. (All without knowing anything about programming etc.) But to fall with the tag filter I must be really crazy (and I am sometimes). I also know that I can search on google how to remove the k9 (maybe tag as well). I also found an app through which I can access ANY site without the filter detecting it. So I have to be my own shomer anyway. But when I have k9 & my wife has the code I can do anything & ask her anything.
Category: Introduce Yourself
14 Jan 2018 13:04

ieeyc

Re: addiction? Anxiety? Something else?
BH i think tag is doing a great job keeping me out of trouble, i don't think they were established for people sitting LOOKING for shmutz,it was made for people that they shouldn't stumble.although they do a pretty good job for the first category too.
Category: Introduce Yourself
14 Jan 2018 12:45

shmirashachaim

Re: addiction? Anxiety? Something else?
Markz wrote on 27 Dec 2017 01:08:

youcan wrote on 27 Dec 2017 00:17:
I was surprised to see here that there are Jews that don't know what TAG is...
I only know about k9, it's not enough for me.


There are TAGs that don't know about some loopholes

I taught them a few 

K9 or many other filters are only as strong as the administrator - it's gotta be someone else - just like Tags filters are designed.
If you were in charge of a K9 German Shepard, you wouldn't train it to hunt you down - would / could you?


If kol olam nivra bishvili then K9 is one of the worse inventtions of all time.
This is especially true because of my attempts to be my own admin. This entailed, 1) writing long number passwords, writing it on a piece of paper, putting it in some obscure old sefer- one which most probably no one will use, on a top shelf in a shul that is locked outside of davening times. This also entailed, 2) retrieving the paper at a later time to change the settings to change the settings just a little..., and then a repeat of 1 and 2 and 1 and 2 and 1 and 2. 
It also fed into my peculiar (yes I meant to write that word) obsession of getting through filters.
But besides for the being my own admin part, I found it to be a pretty lousy filter (not even referring to tech-loop holes- just talking about the filter part). 
But there are other people in this world, so if it works it's free. 
Category: Introduce Yourself
14 Jan 2018 06:32

lionking

Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy"
Just my 2 cents on, both my question regarding the use of asterisks, and ieeyc's question regarding if recommending marriage to someone struggling is considered degrading of woman.

Regarding Asterisks:
I received some great answers and realized some people might be triggered by certain words. I do believe there is a difference between slang words which is not lushen nekia and should not be used, versus technical words which I feel is fine, but I understand that it can affect some people. 
On a personal level, I used to be triggered when I saw a license plate with the letters EXS, my brain used to shuffle the letters and start thinking about it. Only after I started using these words here on the forums, it stopped being an issue.

Regarding ieeyc's question:
 I think it depends alot on the situation. If the boy is obsessed with it or addicted, it is probably not a good idea to recommend marriage. However for the average boy which occasionally struggles with this, I don't think there is any issues with him getting married, however he should clearly be told that for most if not all people, marriage is not a cure, it only exacerbates the problem. 

Hatzlacha Rabba!
Category: Introduce Yourself
14 Jan 2018 05:31

iampowerless

Re: just trying to do the right thing
So that's my story dear friends here is a short summary of my problems
1. A lot of  baggage (trauma)from the past 
2. To the outside world acting as though i'm a happy, geshmak and successful bachur
3. nonstop addiction to masturbation and viewing innapropiate pictures and pornography.

And here is what i hope to accomplish!

1. I will never be able to change what happened but i need to be able to accept what happened and make my past into a strength instead of a wickness
2. This i guess is not a problem it's a chessed that hashem did to me that i was able to put on such a great show
3. I must completely stop i baruch hashem came to the realization that it's a sickness which is going to damage my entire future

how will i accomplish my goals
1. I already went for a lot of therapy and have seen some results but i will continue with my new therapist
2. It's great! Nothing to work on this front
3. I've installed filters, started keeping in touch with fellow gye's members, listening to a lot of the recording's on 12 steps and posting non stop on the forum and baruch hashem today reached 20 days clean! 

 Love Your Dear Friend Yankel!
Category: Introduce Yourself
12 Jan 2018 20:25

bear

Re: hi
Al322 wrote on 26 Dec 2017 18:28:
Hi,
Just joined last night. Have been struggling with internet filth for around 30 years. Have a wife and family. Only I know. Have had periods of quiet but not too many. Quit smoking last year and I see an addiction can be broken. This will be harder. Watched the video from Dr. Patrick Carnes in the videos/talks-shiurim section. some notes:
  • It's a 3-5 year effort.
  • 40 days clean has an effect on your brain
  • Next 90 days reshape your attitudes
  • many lapse in the second 6 months.

First step: Do the 90 day challenge - each day will read one section in part one of the GYE guidebook and one section in part two of the GYE guidebook and summarize these in a notebook. 

Hey welcome,
I liked the points you raised gave me what to think about.
Hatzlacha
Category: Introduce Yourself
12 Jan 2018 15:25

youcan

Re: My struggles
Welcome! You won't loose anything from staying with us. What can be better than a group of people always ready to listen to you encourage you when you need it & if you're in the mood of helping somebody? We're all available
I don't know your specific marriage situation, but my story is more like your wife's than like yours, you can read my intro here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/322790-Addiction-Anxiety-Something-else#322790. I can assure you that your wife will get past these bad feelings  & you can still have a wonderful marriage.
check around the site, see what works for you & get to work!
Category: Introduce Yourself
12 Jan 2018 04:17

Hakolhevel

Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
Watson wrote on 22 Nov 2016 21:12:
My £0.02 - I agree that we shouldn't push SA. I am guilty of having done that and I'm truly sorry. It does more harm than good.

Some aspects of SA on the other hand, like honesty, open-mindedness, letting go, working on improving our relationships and living life on life's terms should be pushed. Why? Because it's so different form what most of us (myself included) had been trying for years and decades.

Most of us come with preconceived ideas about what we want to achieve and how we want to achieve it. Only problem is, it isn't working. So we ask for advice. And we get it. And it makes us angry and defensive. We argue with the very people we asked to help us. It happens all the time, it certainly happened in my thread. Just look at how much I argued with Dov!

The truth will set you free. But first it will tick you off.

People come here for help and we ought to give it to them, sometimes at the expense of being argued with.

The thing is though, these concepts are crucial to recovery, whether you choose to go to SA, therapy or a Rav.

You have to be honest with your therapist / SA / your Rav.
You have to be open-minded to suggestions from your therapist / SA / your Rav.
You have to let go of porn in therapy / SA / conversations with your Rav.
You have to work on improving your relationships in therapy / SA / conversations with your Rav.
You have to learn to live life on life's terms in therapy / SA / conversations with your Rav.

GYE suggests 20 progressive tools, SA and therapy are both mentioned (way down the list, I might add) - guardyoureyes.com/the-gye-program/20-tools 

One of the best posts I have seen recently on the "big question" am I a addict or not. Or to be more exact, if I'm not an addict, what can I gain from listening to addicts.
Category: On the Way to 90-Days
11 Jan 2018 22:24

youcan

Re: just trying to do the right thing
You're anything but powerless....
Thanks for sharing your story, very dramatic and very sad.
So far your bottom line is similar to many of us; you're a good person going through some difficult things in life & addicted to ***porn***. But when you'll be out with your full story we will have the full picture.
Category: Introduce Yourself
11 Jan 2018 21:59

iampowerless

Re: just trying to do the right thing
anyways to continue my story, yankele (poor little boy) is leading a triple life things at home got so bad and Yankele got hospitalized, (he didn't deserve it) when get's back to yeshiva he tells his friends he was taking fahers and the rosh hayeshiva gives him an ultimatum make peace with the other boy or else........yankele had such a huge ego so he decided he will change yeshivas as there is no way he will give in to threats to make peace and so he does (since he was considered MR shpitz he had no problem getting into another prominent yeshiva) and with the changing of yeshivas yankele tries to put all the past trauma behind him and to start anew, and so he came into this new yeshiva and starts learning nonstop (being the only kid from his shiur who made a siyum that year ) but the pain and the emotions from everything that happened just get's buried deep inside of him and while he stopped fighting with his parent's there is still a lot of anger, trauma and hurt from the past that's hidden deep inside of him and so the years go by  with just trying to ignore the past. but there was a part of yankele that craved love (as he was missing that in his life), and so he turned to pornography to fill in the void (whenever he was able to as there was no internet access in his house) and that was the early stages of my addiction. anyways to be continued. Hey what are people's thought's so far as they hear my story?
would you mind sharing them i think it will help me, hearing peoples thoughts?

Thanks,
Yankele!
Category: Introduce Yourself
11 Jan 2018 06:10

MayanHamisgaber

Re: My Story - Thank Gd
Markz wrote on 10 Jan 2018 23:56:
I resign myself to the esteemed title of Mr Relapse.

I'm 'addicted' to tubing clean videos even in the thick of the winter - "deep snow youtubing"

There's certain types of clean action videos that i enjoy watching and I do 2x weekly, but not every week. I try not to, but it happens... I think lionking, eslaasos and others do too

But outa the corner of my eye I noticed a triggering image a few days ago. Last night I was like let's find another clean video with that image. No porn, just a borderline 'kosher' video. When I start fishing I sometimes land a killer whale which ate me alive.

It's likely that if I'd have posted at 12am that I'm on a Fall Roll it may have caught me in time

What happened yesterday I'm upset about but can forget about -I can't believe it was me acting out last night... it wasn't Markz - it must have been an im-poster.

Forgetfullness is sometimes a good thing...

If it was upto me, I'd separate sobriety counts for daytime lusting and for midnight online offenses, as I believe they need different solutions

One of the solutions was the midnight calendar which I rebooted now

Not sure this post is so thought out, yet I am posting today and now because otherwise I'm sure to repeat this mornings escapade in the next 10 minutes to 5 hrs

Thanks for reading, because if today I'm clean it's because of you my chaver

Markz 
Thank you for your honesty. I got a lot of chizuk from this post ( in a very selfish way ) especially from the fact that you can be "open" with us about a fall which is something I still have hard time recuperating from. You are from the wonderful people here that i regularly  learn from and get a constant chizuk from albeit not always what I want to here but what I NEED to here.

Thank you 
Category: Introduce Yourself
11 Jan 2018 01:27

Workingguy

Re: My Story - Thank Gd
Markz wrote on 10 Jan 2018 23:56:
I resign myself to the esteemed title of Mr Relapse.

I'm 'addicted' to tubing clean videos even in the thick of the winter - "deep snow youtubing"

There's certain types of clean action videos that i enjoy watching and I do 2x weekly, but not every week. I try not to, but it happens... I think lionking, eslaasos and others do too

But outa the corner of my eye I noticed a triggering image a few days ago. Last night I was like let's find another clean video with that image. No porn, just a borderline 'kosher' video. When I start fishing I sometimes land a killer whale which ate me alive.

It's likely that if I'd have posted at 12am that I'm on a Fall Roll it may have caught me in time

What happened yesterday I'm upset about but can forget about -I can't believe it was me acting out last night... it wasn't Markz - it must have been an im-poster.

Forgetfullness is sometimes a good thing...

If it was upto me, I'd separate sobriety counts for daytime lusting and for midnight online offenses, as I believe they need different solutions

One of the solutions was the midnight calendar which I rebooted now

Not sure this post is so thought out, yet I am posting today and now because otherwise I'm sure to repeat this mornings escapade in the next 10 minutes to 5 hrs

Thanks for reading, because if today I'm clean it's because of you my chaver

I don’t have YouTube anymore because there’s no way I’d survive with it. Way too many “kosher” things I want to see that would send the lust flying. It’s boring as hell, but I don’t see another way. YouTube is amazing and endless- the stuff you can see there without being on a porn site is out of control.

Would you think about no YT?
Category: Introduce Yourself
10 Jan 2018 23:56

Markz

Re: My Story - Thank Gd
I resign myself to the esteemed title of Mr Relapse.

I'm 'addicted' to tubing clean videos even in the thick of the winter - "deep snow youtubing"

There's certain types of clean action videos that i enjoy watching and I do 2x weekly, but not every week. I try not to, but it happens... I think lionking, eslaasos and others do too

But outa the corner of my eye I noticed a triggering image a few days ago. Last night I was like let's find another clean video with that image. No porn, just a borderline 'kosher' video. When I start fishing I sometimes land a killer whale which ate me alive.

It's likely that if I'd have posted at 12am that I'm on a Fall Roll it may have caught me in time

What happened yesterday I'm upset about but can forget about -I can't believe it was me acting out last night... it wasn't Markz - it must have been an im-poster.

Forgetfullness is sometimes a good thing...

If it was upto me, I'd separate sobriety counts for daytime lusting and for midnight online offenses, as I believe they need different solutions

One of the solutions was the midnight calendar which I rebooted now

Not sure this post is so thought out, yet I am posting today and now because otherwise I'm sure to repeat this mornings escapade in the next 10 minutes to 5 hrs

Thanks for reading, because if today I'm clean it's because of you my chaver
Category: Introduce Yourself
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