Zedj wrote on 17 Dec 2020 03:47:
When you you get out of this mess, you will be a better therapist. You will understand the sacrifice your clients take upon themselves on a daily basis.
Question for the therapist:
I once heard from a a known speaker-sombody asked him "do you believe everything you say" he replied "if I repeated everything I believe, I wouldn't say anything"
Do you believe the advice you give a client is true and works?
It mind sound stupid but this is what I'm wondering.
Is that maybe the reason you are hesitant to go to therapy yourself?
Or maybe you are like me, petrified of the unknown and just can't bring yourself to speak to someone to admit you have a problem?
Speaking to someone lightened the load tremendously.
At your your own time, when you are ready, call someone or speak to someone you can trust. The sooner the better.
You will be playing 4d chess while your opponent is playing checkers
I thought I responded and it disappeared!
I think your points are both accurate.
I do believe that I help people, but I focus on practical change and I see the results. Unfortunately, I don't believe that the average therapist is a magic pill especially when it comes to more complex and unclear struggles. Dealing with phobias or general anxiety is one thing, dealing with something more encompassing like depression that doesn't seem to have a clear root or an addiction that doesn't either is a different ball game. This doesn't mean that I believe therapy wont be good for me - I think it would be very beneficial. I am wary of the idea that it will be some magic pill though.
The main struggle though is simply facing someone and coming out with it. I've spent years in therapy and only mentioned the very basic idea of addiction once. Even posting here is a big step, but I hope it will be a step that leads to getting to a point where I am able to have that conversation with a therapist.
A gut voch W.G.T.H!
interesting answers!
I think I made you think! 
I don't think anyone is looking for a magic pill. If there was, then we all would take it in a blink of an eye.
I for one would not be here.
We are battling and fighting with an inner struggle constantly.
As you know there are many ways to relieve and help with this specific struggle.
From my personal experience: I realized a couple of years ago that I have a problem, I knew it in my gut. Addiction I don't know but still an issue.
(Realizing I have an issue)
I don't know at what point I can say I eccepted myself (I may have said something earlier about this)
Was it before I called and reached out? Maybe it was once I actually called?
(eccepting myself..) took me too long to reach out for help.
It could very well be, the eccepting of yourself will probably be commuted when you make the phone call or speak to someone. (Of course when you are ready to make that step.)
As a therapist, you see people talk about their issues and vulnerabilities, it's not easy to do, it's extremely raw and painful sometimes ( for me it's so hard) but it's the only way I see myself getting out of this pit I created for myself.
I was, am and still vulnerable.
I think that being vulnerable is necessary and needed to be helped.
I'm not a great writer or communicator but I think you understand.
Wishing you the best and hatzlocha!
Ps
I think having a series will help alot on the forums.
Looking forward!
Long story short I hit pretty hard recently and finally spoke to my rav who sent me to a therapist who will guide on me on the next stages in life. I even told my wife(literally 5 hours ago) about my