WOW keep up the good work .
Now might be a great time to build up your defenses and put some preventive steps in place if you don't already have them.
Some of the things you might have been afraid to give up or prevent while you were deep in, might be attainable now that you are riding the wave. Like stronger filters, stopping some bad habits, etc.
GO for it. and keep on trucking.

WELCOME!

Its tough and it will take time but you can do it!!!!!!! Remember every girl you don't see is a success! Also if a girl happens to walk in your view, that's not you're fault. That's on Hashem!

Never give up too! Remember we make mistakes. If you happen to look at a girl it doesn't mean you lost. You don't have to give up and keep looking. Just restart and try again.

KOT! KEEP ON TRUCKING!

WELCOME!

I love the being optimistic part! Depression, anxiety and worry are tools by the Yetzer to bring us down when we fall. Optimism will help you reach new heights in recovery, breaking barriers you thought you never could before. So keep on trucking! And if you put a smile on you're face even if you are not happy, eventually you will become happy (R' Miller).

KOL! KEEP ON LIVING!

hey there brother, just been reading your thread, and im so sorry your having trouble. ive been pretty bad my self. about one a day for the past week or so. for me its the guilt. i just beat my self up and the stress builds up till i hav no choice. then i try to do something that signifies i am different, but im not. i have to accept who i am. thats the starting point. knowing that god loves me even wen i fall. is anything im saying resinating
?
anywho, keep on trucking as they say, ur doing gr8!

Welcome to GYE, ireallycan!!

I will have to agree with you that there is a lot of information here. I was talking to a friend of ours (from GYE) and he told me "You know, really GYE can be packed into a few ideas that are mentioned over and over and over again. Each time it's in a new package, a new twist, but it's all the same main point!!"

The reason we need new packages and twist is because everyone sees everything differently, and coming from different angles, so everyone needs to see their personal way of looking at it.

SO don't be a stranger, tell us about yourself, your struggles, how long it has been, what you have tried doing to stop, etc. Let's get practical, not just informative!

KOT (Keep on Trucking)!!!!!! KOP (keep on posting)!!!!!

Well, it happened. I fell again, 2nd time in 2 weeks. I was on the chart for about 80 days of clean, and now this. Oh well. Keep on trucking, right?

Welcome Aviriv!!

You are certainly in the right place, a place for people who it seems have done the "impossible"!!

But it's just an illusion, because most of the people here will tel you that they can't stop, all they can do is stay in real life now, in the moment, without worrying about the future!!

Don't be a stranger, we're all a bunch of partners here, from all over the world!! We're all on the same boat though!!

KOT!!! (Keep on Trucking)

Welcome back troubledbachur!!

It's never too late, you are here now, and NOW can be good regardless of what the past was!!

You can contact VCF they have sponsors for people that don't have the means to pay for filters, and it's a very good filter (they some of the best "filter testers" around.....including me).

But the real question is, what driving you to these things? as the saying goes "lust is not our problem it's our solution", we have a problem and we use lust as the solution, so what are you going to do about those problems?

Joining the calls sounds like a great first step, GO FOR IT!!!!

Keep on Trucking brother!!!! KOMT!!

Welcome to the forum abrahamjaim!!!

It's great that you you posted, and your post came out absolutely fine!!! One point of interest might be to analyze when you fall. Is it every time you use the computer? What points can you identify as triggers?

Whatever the case is, great move on posting!!! Keep on trucking (that means keep on going, no matter what)!!!!!

I may have overpowered him for a few minutes but he always comes back for more. Let's learn from him to never give up and Keep On Trucking!!

Thank you guys.


tzudreiter wellcome. I am wondering about the same things and the whole thing is scary. "once a drunk always a drunk". I think this is the truth. But there is hope, we have hope and that is something to look forward to in the darkest moments. I am Miha and I am addicted to porn and I have hope to be happy and I have hope that my life means something. Day by day it means something.

And that adds to 90 or to whatever. It is a good tool, I believe.

P.S. Take the trip. Start the 90 days, open a thread, write, post and keep on trucking!!!

I believe I have hope, that I will do that today :-)

Eiloo V'eiloo divrei Elokim.......Chaim

The ikkur is to live life!!!

My life has become so much more enriched since coming to GYE, and that is because stopping goes hand in hand with living life, it is the supreme example of sur meira v'asei tov (IMHO), both are necessary, we need to cut off, and we need to get into life. Getting into life without stopping is extremely difficult as is vice verso.

Keep on Trucking!!! KOP!!!

Welcome aboard for the ride.
The first step is deciding to do something to stop. Seems you got there. All up hill from here. (there may be some dips in the middle but it is uphill nonetheless)
One thing you gotta know on the forum:
KOT means Keep on Trucking!!!

I think that as we get healthier, moods are bound to change and some of the fake facade that is no longer needed or wanted disappears.

It is possible that you also feel more vulnerable without being able to bury your head in garbage.

If you have a trusted advisor therapist it is worth talking over. Keep on trucking.

AYBK!!

these things do happen and we need to learn from them as mentioned many times here there is something to learn from each fall, so try to figure out what caused the fall or led up to it,

you b"h have joined the site and have the tools so get working on them,

did you try opening up to anyone that usually is the biggest tool to get started,

kol tuv!!!
you should for sure not be too down or beat yourself up AIN SHUM YEAISH BEOLAM KLALL!!!

just brush it off and keep on trucking!!!