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Giver or Taker? 05 Jun 2011 15:50 #108023

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Chaim R here.

Have you been thinking of this?  Don't forget lest Duvid Chaim come after you (just kidding).

I have been thinking of this over Shabbos.

When I said thank you to my host, Was I a giver or a taker? 

When I told my hosts kid a story, Was I giver or a taker?

When I passed the food to the guy next to me,  Was I a giver or a taker?

When I got angry at someone for something that he should not have done (really, not the other 600 times I got angry when I should not have), Was I a giver or a taker?

I'm still thinking about it.
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Re: Giver or Taker? 06 Jun 2011 19:46 #108205

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That IS something to think about. I'll add that it's not black and white. Yes, I do find myself giving in order to take. I might read my kids a book just to get them off my back, or clear my host's table because I want them to think I'm a mentch - but I can honestly say there's an element of real giving there too. Selfishness is a driving force, but I believe our motivations are a mix of colors along the spectrum.
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Re: Giver or Taker? 06 Jun 2011 19:55 #108207

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Honesty.

100% honesty.

Waiting for appreciation is not 'giving'.

But 'perfectionism' is NOT a healthy choice.

Can we flip over from being a Taker & turn into a Giver in a moment?

Impossible!!

95% Taker = 5% Giver

90% Taker = 10% Giver

85% Taker = 15% Giver

As long as I can avoid being 100% Taker.......
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Re: Giver or Taker? 10 Mar 2017 01:06 #307958

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Rising Up wrote on 05 Jun 2011 15:50:
Chaim R here.

Have you been thinking of this?  Don't forget lest Duvid Chaim come after you (just kidding).

I have been thinking of this over Shabbos.

When I said thank you to my host, Was I a giver or a taker? 

When I told my hosts kid a story, Was I giver or a taker?

When I passed the food to the guy next to me,  Was I a giver or a taker?

When I got angry at someone for something that he should not have done (really, not the other 600 times I got angry when I should not have), Was I a giver or a taker?

I'm still thinking about it.

An extremely important question.
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Re: Giver or Taker? 10 Mar 2017 02:17 #307963

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cordnoy wrote on 10 Mar 2017 01:06:

Rising Up wrote on 05 Jun 2011 15:50:
Chaim R here.

Have you been thinking of this?  Don't forget lest Duvid Chaim come after you (just kidding).

I have been thinking of this over Shabbos.

When I said thank you to my host, Was I a giver or a taker? 

When I told my hosts kid a story, Was I giver or a taker?

When I passed the food to the guy next to me,  Was I a giver or a taker?

When I got angry at someone for something that he should not have done (really, not the other 600 times I got angry when I should not have), Was I a giver or a taker?

I'm still thinking about it.

An extremely important question.

V'nahapoch Hu. This is the kind of question I find intriguing and expect you to disregard.
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Re: Giver or Taker? 10 Mar 2017 02:42 #307966

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eslaasos wrote on 10 Mar 2017 02:17:

cordnoy wrote on 10 Mar 2017 01:06:

Rising Up wrote on 05 Jun 2011 15:50:
Chaim R here.

Have you been thinking of this?  Don't forget lest Duvid Chaim come after you (just kidding).

I have been thinking of this over Shabbos.

When I said thank you to my host, Was I a giver or a taker? 

When I told my hosts kid a story, Was I giver or a taker?

When I passed the food to the guy next to me,  Was I a giver or a taker?

When I got angry at someone for something that he should not have done (really, not the other 600 times I got angry when I should not have), Was I a giver or a taker?

I'm still thinking about it.

An extremely important question.

V'nahapoch Hu. This is the kind of question I find intriguing and expect you to disregard.

On the contrary.

Extremely intriguin'.

I have spent some time on this with a choshuve yid talkin', and contemplatin' my own actions.

When I am givin', am I really takin'?

This is so important.

And practical as well.

Thanks for askin'.
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Re: Giver or Taker? 10 Mar 2017 13:49 #307992

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Do you have any clarity on how to answer the question?
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Re: Giver or Taker? 10 Mar 2017 13:58 #307993

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eslaasos wrote on 10 Mar 2017 13:49:
Do you have any clarity on how to answer the question?

The clarity must come from within, but there are intellectual questions involved.

PerhapsI on today's call.
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Re: Giver or Taker? 10 Mar 2017 14:19 #307994

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eslaasos wrote on 10 Mar 2017 13:49:
Do you have any clarity on how to answer the question?

The answer will be that it depends on our mindset.

thanks for the challenge.
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Re: Giver or Taker? 11 Jun 2018 22:05 #332046

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anyone know what time dovid chaims call in is?
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