Ok... so basically, the issue is that some marrieds are uncomfortable sharing with non-marrieds. Now the fact is, if you (the ones who don't agree) don't feel there is something to hide, don't! Continue in the open, but let those who are uncomfortable have their privacy. They can have their own private group if they want... but the rest of us should just treat it like the women's section... it don't exist. If we feel like "crossing the mechitza" and helping... no problem.. but that should be an extra... our main focus is the open forum.

nuff said.

I think the point is that they dont want us (single people) to have the ability to cross the mechitza. They want a complete split like the woman had to do.

Well, I think we should have a thread where the 15 year olds discuss their lust issues with the Disney Channel, like with Miley Cyrus, that Gomez, girl, etc......what to do when your mom/dad walks in on you playing with yourself because you were too stupid to lock the door....how to tell your chatroom/Xbox Live mistress that you're through (oh, the heartbreak!)....


COME ON.

In all seriousness, if the married guys want to talk shop or what to do when she "has a headache", they can PM each other.

If they REALLY want their own country club, they've got to have different classes of membership. Not everyone here is a snot-nosed, pimply-faced 15 year old who's obsessed with nothing but his own penis and that hawt grrl with the Transformers lunchbox that they're too scared to talk to.

Some of us are older and more mature early and mid 20-somethings who are thinking seriously about marriage. Some of us come from broken homes and that's partly why we got sucked into SA to begin with--because we were medicating the emptiness.

Some of us want to learn and some of us are mature enough to handle discussions about marriage and sex within marriage. If it's frank sex-talk, but it's done appropriately with a constructive educational goal, then that won't trigger me. I'm not talking about graphic descriptions about what you do, how you do it, when you do it, or anything like that. That's pointless because every woman is different and every relationship is different, so exchanging "tips" about "what buttons to push" is a total waste of time. I'm talking about more general things. How SA has affected your sexual relationship, what you are doing about it, how a man should treat his wife in general.

Some of us don't want to stumble into marriage with an empty toolbox. Some of us carry deep scars from broken relationships, and some of us want the tools to fix our own before they break.



Now, I realize that I really have no say in what goes on around here. After all, I'm just some crazy porn addict who pretends to be superhero in this corner of his digital existence.

So, if you feel that it would be appropriate (and I'm sure some of you do), then by all means make a separate members-only group for the BruceWayne Haters and the Singles Haters.


After all, I'm just some lost and crazy pretender. 

OK where did you get the idea that a married forum will be about "Let's talk about sex"?
It's going to be about shalom bayis, how to deal with the effect that the addiction had or is having on your relationship, how to speak to your wife about it, how she can be your sponsor etc.
We already established that married guys also have triggers, and that even if there will be such a forum, there won't be ANY graphic or pointless discussions which will defeat the purpose of it.

Made me realize that maybe some of the older "unmarried" guys who are about to get married should be allowed access there too.