great idea!

geshertzarmeod wrote on 17 Mar 2011 14:13:



yechida wrote on 22 Oct 2009 16:17:

guardureyes wrote on 22 Oct 2009 20:40:

habib613 wrote on 23 Oct 2009 04:36:


Great mind think alike!  :D

Just wanted to say...
THANK YOU GUARD!!!!
Here I am jet lagged, awake by myself with nothing to do. and I am able to stay clean! Because I have somewhere to go...
GYE

Shabbos was beautiful! couldnt sleep all night (jet lag) spent several hours discussing hashkafa with some young ladies, without being distracted by obvious distractions. Kept my eyes where they belonged, in their sockets. learning 2 mikra 1 targum, davened kvasikin and then went ot sleep in the morning.
Commited myself to meeting these ladies once a week to discuss the hashkafa inyonim further. My wife guarantees me that they will dress appropriately. I just have to control Mr. Fantasia, who knows how to package these things so that the damage isnt b'shaas maaseh with looking but later on when I cant fall asleep. Please HKBH, Im doing your ratzon! Dont let me be influenced, affected, infected, while doing the mitzvah of kiruv. Chevra daven for me.
Part of our discussion was about developing a relationship with HKBH and how we have to thank him for everything, even the challenges and difficulties, because they are there to bring us closer to HKBH. I never really understood that concept until my experience here on GYE. I always thought, incorrectly, that when I on target Im connected and when Im not , Im not. I know realize, and am working on internalized, that we are always connected. Sometimes through positive experiences and sometimes thru negative experiences. But HKBH never lets go. He's always there for us. I would never had reached this realization if I hadnt been so stuck in the muck of this YH. So yes, although I cant believe Im saying it, I thank HKBH for this challenge/addiction/tendency/YH/whatever. Im now working on developing my relationship with Him in ways that I never would have known. Im not there yet, but thats the direction.

geshertzarmeod wrote on 20 Mar 2011 00:41:

beautiful!

Sorry I havent posted here in a while, got a little bored with it. founnd more interest in posting by others. Anyhow just wanted to share a L'chayim with you guys. This Shabbos marks 40 days! So when I drink L'chayim this shabbos I'll be thinking of all my friends here in GYE.
Thank you and chazak ve'ematz!

L'Chaim!!!!!!

לחיים טובים ולשלום

have a good shabbos. keep on fighting the good fight.

Thanks 4 the good wishes
Shabbos was nice, I used 40 days as a time to take stock of where Im holding, but I realized that I need some advice.
My main problem comes from fantasizing, especially at night as Im trying to fall asleep. I try to think of things that will keep my mind off my stress. In the past the easiest thing was lusting thoughts, which inevitably caused problems. Oy, how many convoluted ways Ive developed to say that the thoughts were mutar, becuase I would create situation in which there was nothing wrong with it. Stupid. Lusting is gonna cause problems whether or not the act your thinking about is mutar or not! I have GYE to thank for that realization. Anyhow Im left now with a problem, what types of things can i think about that will help me fall asleep? Any suggestions? And I dont want to hear about counting sheep!

Think about anything you want, But No Green Elephants!

E

Everyone is different but a few ideas:
- Think about a gift or card that you will get for your wife. Compose the letter, decide what you should get. Where, when and how. How you will surprise her. How happy she will be.
- Close your eyes. Pick a memory. A really nice one. Play it in your mind like a movie. Remember evey detail. When was it? What was the weather? Was it indoors [your wedding, a siyum, a great vacation, etc] what did the room look like? What did it smell like? Who was there? Etc. you'll  fall asleep before you are done.

I hope this is not what you meant when your said not to tell yuo about counting sheep. But do me a favor. Try it. Then we'll see if its the same as counting sheep.

well whenever i can't get my mind to cool down or i want to fall asleep, I simply go into fantasy land and make up a scenarios where I am in control of an technology advanced civilization (which has no women in it) is at war another civilization. Put ur self as the hero of ur clan and let ur mind take control of the rest. its been working for me for like 4 years now. I get really into it and it either leads into a dream or i tire myself out from thinking to much and just fall asleep.

good luck..

Thanks guys, certainly those suggestions are better than counting sheep. BD, what if the green elephants are disguised as sheep?

Oh silly Gesher!  :

That could never happen!

What elephant -let alone a green one -could fit into the sheep costume?

His nose would stick out right away!
:D