Quiet as a mouse...

took the words right out of my mouth  8)

thanks for stopping by AHM, you are always welcome here, quiet or not.

a gut yohr to you and yours and here's to a zman simchaseinu full of simcha and nachas

omein!!

Gibor did you mean "took the words right outta my MOUSE" .... Thank you thank you everyone *bow. Now accepting rotten tomatoes as projectiles. Aim righ for my stomach :p

Zemmy don't get too sloshed on loquat liquor at the simchas bards hashoeiva in kehilas ohavei KY.

Hello.

Ah gutten Moed!

a git vinter and a happy and healthy today to everyone

thank you BOT, Eye and Yosef for stopping by. somehow i did not post on GYE for many moons and i survived. not quite 90 days but it's a start. one day i will need to address my GYE-posting addiction. maybe when i start my post-yom-tov diet, and clean out the attic, and match all the CD cases to the respective cd's and fix the shlock. but by then it might be pesach already...

a thought occurred to me on Simchas Torah which may be worth sharing. We finish the Torah and immediately start reading it again from the beginning, showing that we did not even begin to master it and we start from the beginning like a newcomer. Yet at the same time we read the haftora from Sefer Yehoshua, which seems to signal that there is some element of completion and progression. We move from chumash to nach. Ultimately both ideas are important. We need to value our past experiences and achievements, while at the same time being aware of the fact that we are always beginners in as much as we never reach perfection.

lately the realization that my wife is not appreciated enough is dawning upon me. appreciated by her husband, that is.

circumstances have made it that she is working very hard at something which i don't think she should be doing to the extent she is doing it.

she knows how i feel and does not expect me to go to the same lengths she goes to. she knows that the whole affair is being done in a way i dislike. yet she goes about her business moving and shaking things to get what she needs (wants) done.

and she juggles all the household stuff: kids (incl. new infant) laundry food carpool soccer practice etc).
and she has kind words to say to me and the kids.

while the husband was a grouch about things at times.

and recently a GYE-friend told me how his wife in under-appreciated. and i responded that IMHO most wives are under-appreciated. and after a day or so i realized that i am no different. duhhhh

reminds me of a vort i once thought of years ago (i think under Pres. Reagen or Bush I).
we say בצל כנפיך יחסיון
kanaf can mean wing or edge. what we are asking for is that we always be 'on the edge'. meaning the experience and appreciation of yiddishkeit should be fresh to us like someone who just came upon it. like the first time you put on tefilin, the first time you experience kabalas shabbos, the first time you come to GYE . by nature we get used to what we have and don't appreciate it. like our family, our wife, our house, our job, our health, our nose, our car starting in the morning when we need it to, the sun, the beautiful falls leaves etc.

and now please excuse me, i need to go write the wife a note to thank her, before UAJ gets here

ZemirosShabbos wrote on 26 Oct 2011 17:20:

you mean ontheedgeman?

ZemirosShabbos wrote on 26 Oct 2011 17:20:


As I'm reading it, I'm thinking to myself, there is a very easy solution to all of this . . . a nice note . . . accompanied by an even nicer piece of jewelry .

why not try the "act as if" tactic?
act as if you really appreciate everything she does, until you will mean it

Shmeichel wrote on 26 Oct 2011 18:49:

oh, I thought you meant "act as if you already gave her the jewelry"....that's what I usually do come yomtov.

Shmeichel wrote on 26 Oct 2011 18:49:

דברים גדולים נאמרו כאן
very good idea
thank you for that