Dov, when is the Kidush?
Ur-a-j, I think you derserve to make a kidush too! Continued Hatzlacha!

So far it looks like the Shabbos right before R"C Adar Beis, iy"H...and the oilam is invited.

Rav Dessler Zt"l walked into the Gateshead Kollel Harabonim one morning and informed the first person whom he encountered, "I quit smoking today."

The man wondered why he was being told this information. His amazement increased when he saw the great Rav Dessler walking up to a few other people and making the same pronouncement. Finally, one of the Kollel members gathered his courage and questioned what is the purpose of sharing this information with them?

"It is now my fourth time that I am stopping to smoke!" was the Mashgiach's reply.




"Rav Dessler was a Baal Mussar. He was using one midah to fight another. He was using his Gaavah to help him permanently cease from lighting up again. Now that everyone around him knows, his pride won't allow him to smoke anymore." Such was the commentary that I heard on this story.

Being swamped at work, the usual financial woes, B"H upcoming simcha, cleaning lady quitting, kid issues and sheer exhaustion are all ingredients in the recipe for major RID.  At the suggestion of one of the guys (you know who you are) I made up with my wife to have a 10 minute nightly tea time so we can catch up and she can feel like she's not being neglected. Hope it will work out. But the suggestion alone made my wife happy so I am thankful to Hashem and GYE for that. Makes me want to sing.

Can we sing along?
^Tra L^a L^aa La_aaa

We only sing Zemiros Shabbos on this thread.

ouch, my ego is getting all swollen

do you know this song:
ki nafaltea kamtea, ki aishaiv bachoshech hashem ohr li?

p.s. don't forget the crumpets

Yosef Hatzadik wrote on 08 Feb 2011 22:11:



^Meiein O^lam H^aabb_aaa


Any better?

Please stop this stuff. My children are getting annoyed with my weird singing as I follow along with your b ^um_p^y w^o_r^ds!!

ur-a-jew wrote on 08 Feb 2011 22:22:


We all LOVE ZemirosShabboss!!!

ZemirosShabbos wrote on 08 Feb 2011 22:26:


Okay so last night was nafaltea or no-tea.  I feel like I was lucky to make it out alive.  The stress-level is building in the house.  Fortunately, I finished one of the projects I was working on so maybe things will mellow a little, but the major project is still in full force.

What I noticed today is that it seems that alot of guys here these days are stressed out.  Some are skidding on ice, others crashing and other with near misses and alot of RID and street.  Now it can either be just a symptom of if you buy a blue car you start noticing that everyone else has blue cars.  So since I'm stressed out myself I notice everyone else that is too.  But I have a different theory, that in fact more people are stressed out and it has to do with Adar.  It's like Erev Shabbos.  There is so much to be gained spiritually from Shabbos that the Yetzer hora works in overdrive to get us down on Erev shabbos causing us to miss the opportunities of Shabbos.  Adar is a time for simcha, and therefore it is time for extreme spiritual growth.  There is a reason that Yom Kippur is Yom KiPurim.  The Yetzer Hora is therefore intense on preventing us from taking part in that simcha, hence the increased RID these days.  Hashem please help us out and don't let the yetzer hora succeed.  Thank You.

Lets let go of 'getting' anything out of Shabbos, Adar, Purim, or anything this year. Instead we can be concerned only with what we contribute, even if it means that we gain nothing spiritually at all, have no schar from any of the mitzvos we do, and feel no simcha from it, at all. Zero.

Try it. Go all the way with it with no expectations. It's a different avodah. A bit nearer to liShma, as far as I am concerned. So there. :-*

These things are all opportunities for becoming pipes for Hashem's hashpo'oh to His people and His world. That's not so bad.

And it is much more fun than being one of the 'main players'...especially just in our own heads!

"We are just bozos on this bus" - Firesign Theatre

Dov, A few days ago I bought a poor old lady a meal.  I knew I was in trouble immediately when the back patting started. I know, I know, do the mitzvah anyway. 

I'm an addict.  Look at me, still salivating over being so generous.

Do I get to be on the hundred greatest Anavim thread?

There's no "get"-free giving for me yet.

kot

Join the club, join the club.

But this is the point, and avodah in yiddishkeit is filled with this idea:

Just cuz you are not holding by something is no excuse not to keep walking in that direction. If you keep walking in the right direction you will get somewhere. If you stop walking, you will get nowhere, no matter why you are stopping.

That's humble progress.

a-jew wants to know where u r...