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Re: Thanks 22 Jul 2009 14:53 #9351

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Mazal Tov - best wishes for continued Hatzlacha!
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!
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Re: Thanks 22 Jul 2009 17:50 #9365

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MAZAL TOV!
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Re: Thanks 22 Jul 2009 19:39 #9383

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Thank you all for the great chizuk. now that i completed 90 days it is important to find another motivator. R guard as the group of over 90's is growing it would be great if you could come up with another milestone of some sorts to keep us hanging on tight, just a recommendation.
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Re: Thanks 22 Jul 2009 19:53 #9388

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Here are some short-term motivators:

100 days (triple digit!) & 120 days (Meah v'Esrim) - they're both within sight!!

Also, by the time you hit 120, it will be almost Elul.  Your next motivator can be to come in clean to the Yomim Noraim.  But, one thing at a time.
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!
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Re: Thanks 22 Jul 2009 20:05 #9392

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The yamim noroim are a great motivator, but I feel that the next few weeks are tricky summer vacation etc. we need to all hang on tight together.
Aka -  Mischadeish075 Email mischadeish075@gmail.com
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Re: Thanks 22 Jul 2009 23:28 #9435

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You are a tremendous inspiration for us.

Maybe that's a good motivator
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Re: Thanks 25 Jul 2009 21:30 #9684

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90 Days on the Wall of Honor is Level 7. The next Level is at HALF A YEAR - LEVEL 8!! Then Level 9 at a YEAR. And Level 10 is already "off the charts"..
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Re: Thanks 10 Aug 2009 23:37 #11504

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It"s been a rough day i felt the y"h creeping in, something i didn't feel for a long time i hope its not the beginning of another loosing streak, I'm hanging on tight but please hashem i need your help !!
Aka -  Mischadeish075 Email mischadeish075@gmail.com
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Re: Thanks 11 Aug 2009 12:07 #11571

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I chose a perfect picture for you... Of a holy Jew alone with Hashem in the forest meditating and praying.

mgsbms - remember, no matter how many people are in the room, no matter what desires are swirling around you, it's just YOU AND HASHEM.
Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest.
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Re: Thanks 18 Aug 2009 05:50 #12908

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I HAVEN'T BEEN DOING GOOD THE LAST FEW DAYS AFTER FOUR MONTHS CLEAN I HAD A FEW FALLS I NEED A LOT OF CHIZUK I CANT WRITE TO MUCH NOW BUT I"M WAITING ANXIOUSLY FOR CHIZUK
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Re: Thanks 18 Aug 2009 08:19 #12924

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Dearest MGSBMS,

You reached 90 day. You passed 90 days. You did so much avodah kdosha and you deserve every single one of those mazal tov that you were wished plus many many more. We can't even fully give you what you deserve, but the One up above, He knows...

Do you know what brought on this series of falls? Maybe you can look at it as, "Hey, there's clearly more work to be done, let's get at it!"

I think I can speak for everyone here, we love you and are here for you. Stay with this and let's walk through this together. You are GREAT!!

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Re: Thanks 18 Aug 2009 10:54 #12979

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Thanks "struggle" for your thoughts, I really don"t understand what happened it just came over me and I felt it creeping up as I wrote before. Anyways I hope I could pull myself together and start again with the help of hakb"h and the help of GYE.
Aka -  Mischadeish075 Email mischadeish075@gmail.com
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Re: Thanks 18 Aug 2009 11:35 #12989

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Rabbi guard this time i would like to start my count on the wall i tried logging in but it shows an error ?
Aka -  Mischadeish075 Email mischadeish075@gmail.com
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Re: Thanks 18 Aug 2009 12:47 #13000

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Check your email, they send you a confirmation email.
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Re: Thanks 18 Aug 2009 14:33 #13029

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mgsbms, tell us about the fall.  What precipitated it?  What gedarim are now needed?  What did you learn about yourself?

Was it the "YH of milestones"?  I have an idea, GIVE UP on maintaining a streak.  DON'T STRUGGLE to persevere.  Just think about the next 10 minutes, or at most, TODAY.  Life is what happens here and now, this very second.  You have no control over ANYTHING ELSE.

One of the wisest members on the forum, Dov, recently said (paraphrasing here) that HE CANNOT stay clean for 90 days or even 10.  Yet he has been clean for 11.5 years.  How?  By focusing on today.
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