Ish MiGrodno wrote on 04 Nov 2021 23:20:
1) The other day I visualized a woman sleeping and cuddling all happy next to a wonderful loving husband. It works...
2) There is also the survey technique, which is to go ask women why they dress that way...
1) I am no fan of the "pray for her" technique, but, ironically, your idea makes sense. You just portrayed her as a normal human who can experience love and vulnerability - yet in the context of a loyal and safe protector, not a violent predator...Painful mussar for us (former) addicts..
2) Don't try that at home with a good BY girl!
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Making it all about her is just a way of deflecting the guilt. I was in SA as well and heard all about the praying for her b.s. Heard it from Dov as well. There might be an elite few, like Dov u'd'imeih, who actually are praying for real, but I highly doubt this applies to the vast majority of us. The other ways, again, in my humble and low opinion, are just plain stupid! Imagining her cuddling with her husband in bed with her purple silk nightgown that goes just below the waist as he ..... who the f*ck are you kidding? That's asinine! Truly! And the survey is just as dumb. Am I a bad guy for calling out lousy ideas? Maybe, but this is an anonymous forum, and anonymous fellows should not have feelings. Bring it on please - from Grodna, Alaska, Yeshiva, Dr. Bill's pool house. Don't be shy.
I was being honest. I think your lust must be raging, which I have a lot of respect for. You have no idea how a sex addict could ever be able to do what I said. Thanks for being honest and telling us where you're at.
