You know the old joke, "How many Therapists does it take to change a light bulb? Answer: Only ONE, but the light bulb has to really want to change..."
Dear Loi, thanx so much for your gevaldige chizuk on my journal. I really needed it, and your post was RIGHT ON!! If you didn't see my response yet, take a peak...
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refuah shelayma, from ALL your illnesses
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Hang in there, my friend, remember - "He who wants to purify himself, Heaven helps him." Keep davenning. There's another Newbie, named OneLife, that needs your special brand of chizuk, too. Check out his thread, he just finished Day 9. And the thoughts I shared with him could help you in your lonely struggle as well.
I wish I had this site and this chevrah back in the 80's when I was a bochur, living thru the same struggles you guys are now, the same struggles I faced just as strongly a few months ago. I would have started on the road to recovery back then, and missed decades of lost time, energy, and self hate. But B"H at last I'm here, and so are you. You're gonna get to a place from which the rest of your life will be filled with great joy, and freedom from the desire to view women for pleasure or to act out. And you're gonna spare yourself the bumpy detour of the back roads, and take the highway to Deveikus Hashem!
G-d Bless you!!
Your new friend,
Steve.