Was just thinking that it's probably best to not distinguish at the time when/if these type of scenerios come up, maybe after the fact.

If anyone has anything to add or suggest,
Please

I was just thinking about it again...The word trigger is not word in the Torah,nor in the Rishonim,Achronim etc. I don't think the definition has to be universal and soething you learn pshat in. However you and "him" decided to define the word should be ok.

Don't feel stupid - every question is a good question! 

I would say if it relating to a shtar - then you shouldn't have a specific measure for seeing a trigger but rather you should send a text anytime you feel triggered. You can also include if you see something that you are more sensitive to even if in that moment you aren't triggered. 

Good for you for trying to know your boundaries and understanding them well!

Keep up the great work! 

32 days clean

Thank you all for your thoughts!

I feel that by me being more aware of how I feel and being vulnerable will help me alot. Wishing you all good shabbos

33 days clean

After all said and done it was good shabbos

Wishing everyone a great week!
Gut voch

i-man wrote on 25 Dec 2020 07:21:

You took the words right out of my mouth!

Regarding your question about triggers, check this out, might be helpful. guardyoureyes.com/articles/tips-suggestions/item/understanding-triggers-in-pornography-recovery?category_id=16 

35 days clean.


Here to update:

B"H I've been busy learning.
I didn't really have much time to dwell on my bad mood today but it kept creeping up on me.


Tomorrow is a new day with a reenergized mind, body and spirit.

36 days clean, 

I've finally reached the peak of my last streak. Now onwards we go!
36 strong!
B"H I'm mostly busy during the day so no chance think much other then G-d's word. 


When I joined GYE, the battle that I decided to focuse on was pornography. The reason being was because for the most part I would only be mzl if I watched.
I wouldn't just randomly go be mzl ( though, here and there I did but there isn't a pattern as far as I know) 


(I had my fair share of being mzl on a daily basis and battled along time. Just making that clear...I ain't no saint ...far from one)

I'm thinking that maybe the reason I didn't just go and be mzl was because I watched so many times a week....so I didn't need to..

In general, I have not thought about mzl being a problem...I am alittle worried that if I'm not more vigilant and be careful I may chash vesholom head down a path I thought to avoid.


Obviously I have lots of work to do and with Hashems Help (the one above) I will get out of this mess that I created for myself. 

Anyways these are my thoughts.

Wishing you all well and true happiness!

37 days clean 

And now I'm trudging new grounds, I have not been at day 37 in a really long time.

I do have to say, part of my success has been to the fact that I've not had access to unfiltered devices ect ect.

My surroundings at this time is extremely helpful and conducive to this success.

Am I upset about that?
No, absolutely not! just I don't want to think about the challenges that might arrive if Im in a different climate for a certain amount of time.

Also , part of this success would never have been without all you guys here on gye rooting for me when I needed it most.

To many more unimaginable milestones on gye!

Thank you!

At this point we need to keep reminding ourselves that the focus needs to be ODAAT.
Wer'e so proud of you,
All of us

38 days clean

I'm pretty amazed at myself that I'm actually 38 days clean.
I don't want to "celebrate to early" but I'm really happy about it. I'm so glad I joined gye!

Wishing you all only good!

Zedj wrote on 01 Jan 2021 07:12:

So are we
Keep shteiging buddy! You’re doing amazing 

Woohoo!!! 

You are doing great! Take it day by day and watch yourself slowly rise! 

Restricting yourself on the internet is very wise and means you have great self control! 

Regarding worrying about other environments. DONT!

You need to do the best you can in every place Hashem puts you. Obviously, Someone in a Yeshiva setting is easier but it doesn't mean they shouldn't go home and visit their parents. However, they also should not run to a beach where they will see something bad. It is a balance. 

Another point. Similar to a premature born baby - Would you say they shouldn't be in an incubator because they can't stay in that environment forever? NO! Because you know after some time of growing they will be able to go out on their own and now they just need the extra safety. 

Take the opportunity of a good environment to get stronger and then when a nisayon arises you will be in a better place to fight it. 

Don't be so hard on yourself and you are doing amazing!!

Realestatemogul wrote on 01 Jan 2021 18:15:

39 days clean

Thank you for your post.
I tend to take things harder then I should.i think the last line your wrote was the hammer that hit the nail because I know I'm way too serious and i have to lighten up...alot. especially with these inyanim.

Wishing you all
A good shabbos!