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On the Way to 90-Days

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Trying again ... 30 Dec 2019 04:27 #346376

shua73
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Long time no post. I've been inactive here for a while and have had ups and downs. Ive had periods of no masturbation for if I recall correctly, 130or so days. My current state is falling once every 6 to ten days for past few months or so. I recall that there was a way to join a group of people working towards 90 days to have a group count as well as individual count. Can someone point me to where that is?

smile

You can't make everyone happy, you are not pizza.

Re: Trying again ... 30 Dec 2019 05:37 #346380

lionking OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 818 Karma: 91	Welcome back, Those groups have fallen to the wayside a few years ago. Most weren't active more than a week anyways. We are all here together as a collective group. Let's make this count. May you be zoche to a true nes chanukah.
	My email address is: growinghigher613@gmail.com

Re: Trying again ... 30 Dec 2019 14:59 #346390

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shua73 wrote on 30 Dec 2019 04:27:

If I may suggest. Start with breaking the current pattern. Set a goal of being clean for 2 weeks, then once you accomplish that go for a bigger goal... Another suggestion, when you do have the urge to act out, delay it with 15 minutes & use that time to Daven to Hashem that you should eventually be able to be completely clean...

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com

Re: Trying again ... 01 Jan 2020 02:22 #346431

shua73 OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 261 Karma: 8	Slipped now (watching non-pornographic but still inappropriate content) until i remembered that I'm counting to 90. Interesting that I completely forgot that I was counting. But luckily I remembered and am still on track.
	smile You can't make everyone happy, you are not pizza.

Re: Trying again ... 01 Jan 2020 12:46 #346440

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shua73 wrote on 01 Jan 2020 02:22:

Slipped now (watching non-pornographic but still inappropriate content) until i remembered that I'm counting to 90. Interesting that I completely forgot that I was counting. But luckily I remembered and am still on track.

When you start to slip and you catch yourself and STOP, it's much greater than not slipping at all. Your self control muscles are building up and the reward for that is great too.
Keep it up and keep us inspired with your great progress!

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com

Re: Trying again ... 06 Jan 2020 17:15 #346544

shua73 OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 261 Karma: 8	One week so far. Thank God
	smile You can't make everyone happy, you are not pizza.

Re: Trying again ... 06 Jan 2020 17:33 #346545

DavidT OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 787 Karma: 55	shua73 wrote on 06 Jan 2020 17:15: One week so far. Thank God WOW! Thanks for the great update! You will soar higher and higher and attain unimaginable success in the battle of the generation with Hashems help. Please keep up posted.
	"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?" feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com

Re: Trying again ... 10 Jan 2020 05:08 #346613

Realestatemogul
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Hey Shua, welcome back!

I actually came on here years ago with a different user name, then came back with this one and got to 200+ days, then fell and was in the dumps, and now B''h I am 36 days clean. The trick is to just keep getting back up and dusting yourself off, and moving forward.

Keep posting, smiling, and exercising the muscles DavidT mentioned. You will be stronger every day!

GYE is here for you and I wish you much hatzlacha!!

Check out my thread

guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/334915-This-is-going-to-be-the-time-I-get-to-90%21

Re: Trying again ... 12 Jan 2020 14:58 #346656

shua73 OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 261 Karma: 8	Realestatemogul, I like the new username. And still clean. Thanks for the inspiration!
	smile You can't make everyone happy, you are not pizza. Last Edit: 12 Jan 2020 17:26 by shua73.

Re: Trying again ... 13 Jan 2020 04:33 #346666

shua73 OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 261 Karma: 8	Now that two weeks is coming up, slipped but didn't fall. Not sure exactly what to write after this but my thoughts are that I'll keep trying. Have a good night.
	smile You can't make everyone happy, you are not pizza.

Re: Trying again ... 13 Jan 2020 04:52 #346667

qwerty123456 Current streak: 62 days OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 53 Karma: 2	shua73 wrote on 13 Jan 2020 04:33: ~~Now that~~ two weeks is coming up, slipped but didn't fall. Not exactly sure what to write after this but my thoughts are that I'll keep trying. Have a good night. go you!! dunno about you, but i find it triple as hard to stop once i already slipped.
	Last Edit: 13 Jan 2020 04:55 by qwerty123456. Reason: quoted wrong

Re: Trying again ... 13 Jan 2020 08:55 #346669

shua73 OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 261 Karma: 8	Youre right. I just fell. Will pick myself up and try again.
	smile You can't make everyone happy, you are not pizza.

Re: Trying again ... 13 Jan 2020 14:08 #346670

DavidT OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 787 Karma: 55	shua73 wrote on 13 Jan 2020 08:55: Youre right. I just fell. Will pick myself up and try again. It's important to minimize the time gap between a fall and getting up. The Y"H's main goal is to get you to give up and be down as long as possible, you're goal is to say NO! My falls do not define my essence, I'm a good person and eventually I'll be 100% clean with Hashem's help!
	"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?" feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com