doitformyself wrote on 17 Feb 2023 20:03:

That tactic is very true. Unfortunately.  In the pretty recent past, a number of really nice guys from here got married (after responsibly getting clean). Two of them have been finding it very difficult to get physically aroused and "perform". They both claim that having been used to the hyper-stimulation (and as one of them said - the fake videography) they have a really rough time being naturally stimulated. They are being helped and iyh they will eventually "do what has to be done", but in the meantime it is an anxiety riddled way to start off a marriage, and probably causes the kallahs to wonder what's going on. 

Hashem created us with natural arousal which for thousands of years has worked very well. When for years guys over stimulate frequently, they can sort of disconnect the regular "switch". Let's take heed. 

Important - this does not happen to everyone so guys getting married should not obsess over this issue - because the anxiety alone can cause bedroom dysfunction.