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TOPIC: Reflections 24424 Views
Re: Reflections 08 May 2017 16:59 #312550
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Chaimel!! Wonderful posts! Hatzlacha with the Shidduch. (my rebbe always gave me the bracha when I was dating to have yishras hadaas (clarity of thinking). IT can be a beautiful time, but it can also be a bit confusing emotionally. like a roller coaster, at least in my experience. May Hashem bless you and your efforts and may you see much bracha and hatzlacha in your personal and parsha related growth
 )Remember it's just one day at a time!! I love your positive attitude. (I relate very much to your depression, I haven't been to formal therapy, but It is something I work on on a regular basis). but You sound great and sincere in your simchas hachaim and it is really inspiring!!!
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Re: Reflections 08 May 2017 17:12 #312552
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TzedekChaim wrote on 08 May 2017 16:59:
Chaimel!! Wonderful posts! Thank you very much for the kind words and encouragement! Question to all: as dating goes on I'm supposed to be getting 'into it' obviously. But that makes things much more difficult, having this girl on my mind all day. Am I supposed to continue trying with the same tools I've used until now or start with new ones? It feels like a contradiction to have your head stuck in it and still remain pure. im realizing just how much more difficult this must be after being married (niddah, moods, babies, etc) Generally at night these days i start heading to sleep and take out my phone to get on GYE before my mind may start wondering. But then I start typing a post trying to keep a clean mind and as I'm typing in the back of my head I'm lusting away!!! Aaaaahhhhh! |
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 04:12 #312621
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Day 0.
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 04:32 #312624
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Chaimel wrote on 08 May 2017 17:12:
TzedekChaim wrote on 08 May 2017 16:59: Chaimel!! Wonderful posts! Thank you very much for the kind words and encouragement! Question to all: as dating goes on I'm supposed to be getting 'into it' obviously. But that makes things much more difficult, having this girl on my mind all day. Am I supposed to continue trying with the same tools I've used until now or start with new ones? It feels like a contradiction to have your head stuck in it and still remain pure. im realizing just how much more difficult this must be after being married (niddah, moods, babies, etc) Generally at night these days i start heading to sleep and take out my phone to get on GYE before my mind may start wondering. But then I start typing a post trying to keep a clean mind and as I'm typing in the back of my head I'm lusting away!!! Aaaaahhhhh! A young healthy man dating will have nisyonos. Its normal and natural. Much has been written about how husbands should not view wives as pleasure objects but rather as people they want to support and give to. Similarly when thinking about a date you are excited about, veer away from the sexual thoughts and concentrate on her good qualities and how you can help nurture them. No, its not easy, but it can be done. Do you have a rebbi you can speak this over with? |
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Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com
My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE |
Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 08:31 #312633
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"Vegeta, what does the scouter say about his sobriety level?"
"... It's over NINE-ZEROOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!" One day... At A Time :-D Introduce Yourself and get a free karma point from yours truley! My Thread |
Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 11:06 #312642
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Chaimel wrote on 09 May 2017 04:12:
Day 0. unsure how to proceedSorry to hear First step was already done beautifully reaching out... next read from the post that the link sends you to and read the next 2 pages.... After that keep on posting or post now and read later KOMTNMW |
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very important thread:
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 15:14 #312666
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 17:37 #312669
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 17:41 #312670
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very important thread:
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 17:43 #312671
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 17:48 #312673
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My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads: Mikvah Night - Page 1, Page 2, Page 3, Last Page https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/210029-Tryin  Warning: Spoiler!Quote from the chevra: "Is Cordnoy truly a Treasure Island pirate from the Southern Seas?" MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED. |
Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 17:59 #312675
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"Hashem Help Me" post=312624 date=1494304330 catid=4 I don't generally sexualize women, yet somehow it's happening more often with this date and thank you for pointing that out. B'ezras hashem will try as you said to focus on the good qualities when I'm with her. Is that supposed to apply when I'm not with her? I think now I can understand why it says without 'taivas nashim' people wouldn't get married. i am very close with a rebbi that guided me through therapy and the like. Really didn't think of discussing it with him, not that he wouldn't understand just seems like a hard thing to describe and constantly follow up with. "MayanHamisgaber" post=312670 date=1494351688 catid=4 "GrowStrong" post=312671 date=1494351818 catid=4
"cordnoy" post=312673 date=1494352082 catid=4Try it; let us know please.
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 18:32 #312677
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very important thread:
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Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 21:01 #312706
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If you are really bored, you can check out my original thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/305558-Journey-of-one-day-at-a-time
"Think good and it will be good!" |
Re: Reflections 09 May 2017 21:36 #312723
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