I find that thoughts are like piles of dust. If you want to get rid of them, you have to do it slowly and without any quick movements.
Someone who tries to sweep up dust aggressively, is working against himself, because he's just getting the dust all over the place. If you touch it too quick - it flies up in the air. And try getting dust out of the air.
Likewise, if you try too hard to get rid of a thought, in a way your just getting it deeper inside your head. You have to ignore it. Just pretend you have no interest in what the thought is. Then interestingly, it leaves you alone.

Or... you  could just start thinking of other things.... That works too.

When the bor is reik then its filled with nechashim and akravim!

KollelGuy, your proverb is amazing.
just  along with what silent said.
i liked it.
thank you.

HABA, how are you guy?? 
you right as well.... :D

Doing good my brother, and wishing the same to you....

Hows my friend OL doing?? Still by the kosel??

Ok guys.
20 days clean.
on the way to the work and from, in the train, two hours a day my head is down.
i try to throw sudden views which are exposed to my eyes gentely.. 

i close to break my last clean period - 21 days...
just another two days  :'(

my deal with Haba and steve still does work for me.
every time i say to myself i'm not gonna be the first to break our deal, and i hope the other think so too.
may g-d be with us ...

Wow, Onelife!

That's great - and the fact that you've pushed yourself to join a group of others all growing together - that's even better!

What do you do during the train ride?

silentbattle wrote on 03 Jan 2010 14:13:


i watch the girls pass my chair  :D :D ;D ;D
no, no its just a joke.  :D

half from  the way to the work i  pray shachris  the second half i read "ISRAEL HAYOM" newspaper that is very clean paper.
on the way to home i either take a nap or  read the daily chizuk of GYE.

i always make an effort  to sit alone at the last wagon which is usually populated with some peoples.  sometimes i sit there alone.

But the problem dear is not now. we just need to wait two more  months when the summer starts...then the real battle will start.

Well, I think that should go under the "hugs" thread - hashem is letting you start now, when it's easier, so that when summer arrives, you'll already have lots of practice! It won't be easy, but I think it will be easier.

It's great that you keep yourself occupied - that the important thing. Have you tried learning during the trip? Does that make it easier or more difficult?

Keep on training trucking OL. Your gonna get real far with your upbeat attitude. hatzlacha rabba.

OneLife wrote on 03 Jan 2010 11:35:


Dear OL,

I'm totally with you!! I also was close to breaking but feel like I can't let you and Steve down. It's good to have a bunch of sidebets around so that besides the main 90 day WOH one, you have as many other motivations as well!

Keeep on trucking!!!

Btw you guys should know that there is a board for accountability groups. Why dont you guys start your own group?? Pm kedusha and hell take care of all the technicalities.

thank you guys.
silent - i wish it gonna be easier at the summer i'll pray for that.
          i think the reason that we are not in a formalistic group is that our group was a spontaneous idea of steve few days after we begun our
          journey  and we took that.
imtrying - my rebbe told us (his talmidim) in a mussar lesson  never be sad, even you fell 1000 times, never fall to depression, depression is
              the Y"H "food" and it put you in a terrible magic circle of fall-depression-fall-depression-etc.
              so i  make an effort as much as i can to be in simcha tamid  :D :D

HABA - i very excited to hear that you feel as me.  we are not gonna give up till we have the 90. (only then we can fall just one time to give us little  present on our success journey.  :D :D :D :D  Joke! joke! joke! its good to health... ;D ;D)

good night holy friends,
i love you.
         

We love you to OL. And keep on being besimchah. I Promise it never hurt anyone!! :D :D :D :D :D :D

Wow - I love your up-beat spirit! You totally and completely rock!

You're training yourself now - you're getting used to not looking around etc - those are habits that will stay with you no matter the weather.