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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 08:29 #305392

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Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 08:12:
Sorry about that. Some (most) times I am too lazy to go back hundreds of posts >.<


NP didn't mean to scream was just letting you know that when you do have time or interest it was already there 
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very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 09:10 #305394

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Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 07:45:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 19:11:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 18:16:
since coming on to gye yes with the exception of talking to my wife no-one knows about this

Food for thought

You say you're listening to Dov's calls. Have you gotten to this one?

Disclosing just to your wife may not be as pious as one thinks... give the call a listen ;-)


I've listened to the recording but can you tell me what you had in mind.
Sorry not trying to be difficult just as I have said in previous posts that I have told in the passed or have been caught by a few people....
thanks for the recording though was good to hear this again (the first time was by my rebbe after my wife caught me the first time
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 09:22 #305395

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If I can remember he said if you JUST disclose to the Mrs, then it's selfish because out of anyone, she wouldn't let anyone else know because she'd be too ashamed. So it doesn't really apply to you.
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 09:29 #305396

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Thanks I am happy to know that we are on the sane page 
(please excuse the pun  :-p)
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 09:34 #305397

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also when she did find out she called someone and I don't know who he was
AND she pushed me to tell my rebbe (in the right way of course)
Hashem should continue giving her strength to support me
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 10:13 #305398

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Which pun? The same page? or the sane page?
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 12:20 #305403

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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 13:27 #305411

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Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 08:12:
Sorry about that. Some (most) times I am too lazy to go back hundreds of posts >.<

We noticed.
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 13:34 #305412

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 09 Feb 2017 08:12:

Markz wrote on 09 Feb 2017 02:38:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 12:59:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 04:36:
Forget the addict question.

What are you doin' to change?

And please don't say, "I'm not lookin' at porn and I'm postin'," for that's not inner change.


for inner change I'm trying to be honest with myself about my ego anger and self esteem figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic and working on these middos thru mussar and talking to friends and family.
Also listened to the chossen shmuzzen by R' Fuerman(or however you spell it) also downloading and listening to Dov's calls and reading the different advice found here and trying to decide what works for me from all of these places.
Is there something else  should try?

(From a later post) True having a mentor or rebbe to talk to is a good thing but so far I have made very good progress by talking to my wife parents and friends and I see no reason why this cannot continue to work.


Thank you for takking time to help me

Can we have a convo. Do you mind if I inquire my dear brother what's goin on
  1. Can you explain working on these middos thru mussar. What does that mean exactly
  2. "figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic". Im clueless how to do that myself. How are you managing
  3. "Talking to my wife parents and friends" about the weather? About porn?

All the best - my brother!!

GET YOUR SNOW TRUCK OUT AND KEEP ON TRUCKING!!!


1) learning the basic seforim (sha'aray t'shuvah m'seilas y'sharim orchos tzadikim)  about each midda then understanding in a practical way how they apply to me and where I am holding with them and then 

2) looking back after I get angry or whatever what happened why did I act like that what mentality did I have that should be changed or my outlook at situations or people
The biggest challenge for me is not looking down at people for the faults that I see for I probably have bigger faults than them 

3) about my middos and where I am holding with my lusts (am I down,up,need soe help....)

is this what you wanted to clarify 
thank you all for helping me express this

Very nice.

Perhaps do a search for a 4th step resentment sheet. It might prove to be beneficial.

Continued hatzlachah
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 13:36 #305413

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cordnoy wrote on 09 Feb 2017 13:27:

Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 08:12:
Sorry about that. Some (most) times I am too lazy to go back hundreds of posts >.<

We noticed.

How do you go about remembering everyone's specific issues and problems? Could it be you're just a better person than I?
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 13:42 #305415

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Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 13:36:

cordnoy wrote on 09 Feb 2017 13:27:

Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 08:12:
Sorry about that. Some (most) times I am too lazy to go back hundreds of posts >.<

We noticed.

How do you go about remembering everyone's specific issues and problems? Could it be you're just a better person than I?

II have no idea, nor am I interested to know if I am better or not. I know I'm not a good person.

Prior to givin' advice on a thread, i try to see if the advice was givenI before and what the reaction was. I am not always successful.
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 14:17 #305422

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Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 07:45:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 19:11:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 18:16:
since coming on to gye yes with the exception of talking to my wife no-one knows about this

Food for thought

You say you're listening to Dov's calls. Have you gotten to this one?

Disclosing just to your wife may not be as pious as one thinks... give the call a listen ;-)

Although in some cases people may have ulterior/manipulative motives in disclosing these challenges to their wives, in the vast majority of situations, if the wife can handle it, it is extremely proper and beneficial. 
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 14:19 #305424

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 09 Feb 2017 14:17:

Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 07:45:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 19:11:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 18:16:
since coming on to gye yes with the exception of talking to my wife no-one knows about this


Food for thought


You say you're listening to Dov's calls. Have you gotten to this one?

Disclosing just to your wife may not be as pious as one thinks... give the call a listen ;-)


Although in some cases people may have ulterior/manipulative motives in disclosing these challenges to their wives, in the vast majority of situations, if the wife can handle it, it is extremely proper and beneficial. 

Vehemently disagree.

Where do you derive your statistics from?
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 14:35 #305430

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Numerous therapists including sex addiction therapists.
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 14:53 #305432

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 09 Feb 2017 14:35:
Numerous therapists including sex addiction therapists.

Perhaps try speakin' to some real live people here.

There are times when it works outI and it depends at what stage, but maybe have a conversation, or two, or three with some fellows from this site.

Some will agree with you, but not the vast majority.
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