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TOPIC: I need to change my attitude again 1854 Views
I need to change my attitude again 09 Jun 2014 09:56 #233079
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yes, I need to do that.
I did stil read the chizuk mails, but not much more than that anymore. The last week I didn't try that hard to stay sober anymore. Yesterday evening I m**'d and didn't even try to do anything first like what I described in my taphsic. I even one time did it but eased my way out of it saying 'well this time I take it as a slip, but next time its a fall'. But with such a (dishonest) attitude I will never get there. So first thing to do is to do the penalty I described as my taphsic. Then I may need to adjust that taphsic somewhat to make it more serious. I need to stay honest to myself and everyone else. And I will take to my heart the advice that is often said: to stay sober one day at the time  I have reached 50 days before, and I can do it again, with the help of hashem AND the right attitude.
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Re: I need to change my attitude again 09 Jun 2014 17:25 #233099
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My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads: Mikvah Night - Page 1, Page 2, Page 3, Last Page https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/210029-Tryin  Warning: Spoiler!Quote from the chevra: "Is Cordnoy truly a Treasure Island pirate from the Southern Seas?" MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED. |
Re: I need to change my attitude again 09 Jun 2014 17:45 #233103
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Re: I need to change my attitude again 09 Jun 2014 17:47 #233105
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My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads: Mikvah Night - Page 1, Page 2, Page 3, Last Page https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/210029-Tryin Warning: Spoiler!Quote from the chevra: "Is Cordnoy truly a Treasure Island pirate from the Southern Seas?" MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED. |
Re: I need to change my attitude again 09 Jun 2014 22:41 #233137
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Re: I need to change my attitude again 09 Jun 2014 22:52 #233139
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Today I also wrote down questions for myself and a list of things I can change in my life. For example, there are body parts, clothing (like panties) or other things that can arouse us. So I asked myself the question: why lust for something that in reality is nothing special? I guess we (as in our society) make it something to lust at.
Then I also said to myself to more actively avoid any trigger item or trigger area, which I only losely did before. But I want to take things more seriously now. Because at this moment I wasn't seeing lust as an enemy, and G'd only saves us from our enemies - not from our friends. For the rest all I wrote down is basically what is also taught here, like finding another point of focus in a place with females that are scarsely dressed or trigger fantasies or thoughts. Better watching flowers, birds, a house or anything else So far so good, so only two or so hours to go and I can count today as blessed and succesful! |
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Re: I need to change my attitude again 09 Jun 2014 23:50 #233149
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My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads: Mikvah Night - Page 1, Page 2, Page 3, Last Page https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/210029-Tryin Warning: Spoiler!Quote from the chevra: "Is Cordnoy truly a Treasure Island pirate from the Southern Seas?" MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED. |
Re: I need to change my attitude again 09 Jun 2014 23:56 #233150
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I am happy to speak on the phone. Please email me at dms1234ongye@gmail.com
My name is Daniel, I go to face to face meetings and I work the 12 steps with a sponsor. |
Re: I need to change my attitude again 10 Jun 2014 00:25 #233156
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cordnoy wrote:
keep up truckin' (the) good work I was lustin' after them for over 30 years. i'm afraid to hear what you'll tell me next. b'hatzlachah Heh, well I know. Sometimes I still have that thought like 'what would be under that woman's skirt/dress?' One could plainly say 'underwear like anyone else (and panties are just a piece of fabric', or stay with that initial thought to get in a lusting loop. I have enough years behind me in which I did the latter, but am now going to focus on the first. Don't be afraid  b'hatzlacha! |
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Re: I need to change my attitude again 10 Jun 2014 00:27 #233157
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Re: I need to change my attitude again 10 Jun 2014 00:39 #233159
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My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads: Mikvah Night - Page 1, Page 2, Page 3, Last Page https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/210029-Tryin Warning: Spoiler!Quote from the chevra: "Is Cordnoy truly a Treasure Island pirate from the Southern Seas?" MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED. |
Re: I need to change my attitude again 10 Jun 2014 03:37 #233177
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Re: I need to change my attitude again 10 Jun 2014 09:14 #233196
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cordnoy wrote:
Personally (although I don't always necessarily listen to this advice), I wouldn't think either....don't bother thinkin' what's under her skirt...it'll just get you into trouble...big time! b'hatzlachah very true
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