can we meet at the beanstalk?


have a great shabbos!

If that's cholint beans - can I join?

Yes, that would be a great Shabbos,

MT

jack wrote on 29 Jun 2012 15:32:


Yes - it was great meeting you too, Jack!

it's erev shabbos, i'm at the library and dont have much time but just wanted to say quickly that i told my wife everything, it was in front of a sex addiction therapist.more next week.things are much better now.
jack

i went with my wife to a sex addcition therapist and was honest, and she was honest back and my own recovery improved as a result - this is the short version.in a nutshell - intimacy vs. intensity.porn is intensity,marriage is intimacy.the two are very different.

she taught me about shlaymus - she didn't use that word - but that's what she meant.and addiction is not part of who we really are.she aso said that there's only one thing that can fulfill us - and that is G-d.the same thing R twersky said to me.she said no human being, no thing, can fulfill our needs.not porn, not our spouse, only G-d.and when i asked her how do i get a conenction to G-d, she held up the big book and said 'through recovery, you will find G-d'. AMAZING!
jack

happy for you, jack
this calls for Jack's Niggun again
www.guardureyes.com/GUE/Music/mus/JackSimcha.mp3

lol I listened to that the other night. Its just so Jewish! ;D

thanks for responding guys - keeping connected is one way to help ourselves to stay clean.and for all those (including myself) who are strugglers, "DGUE' which means DONT GIVE UP!! EVER!!
good shabbos

as i approach my 4th anniversary with GYE next month, here are some thoughts.if you ask me how i can stay clean, i'll answer i dont know but it aint easy.well, i do know, but i dont know.confused? i stay clean because of you guys.but that's not really a reason, is it? no reason works for me.i do it because you want me to do it - period.if i start thinking about reasons, i'll refute every one of them, and then i'll f--l i dont even want to say the word.
jack

Congratulations towards your fourth anniversary, Jack.

You're a great chizzuk to me and to others. Your story teaches us that, with the proper effort, it can be done.

Good luck and continued success!

MT

thanks for the knid words.without group support i couldn't do it!

jack wrote on 10 Aug 2012 14:19:

And I thought it stands for "Do GuardUrEyes".... :o

if DGUE brings to mind Dougie's Grill, do i need to check out OA?

definitely.there's a 12 step group for any type of addiction that you can think of.i think i'll start one called people-who-are-addicted-to-writing-on-the-living- room-wall-with-a-crayon anonymous.