How did that work out?  Did you decide to wait on telling her or did you tell her and how did you explain it?  If you consider it nosy just ignore it.

MAZELTOV!!!
:-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*

mazel tov!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 8)

Thank you guys so much!!!

For all the single guys may you find the right one in the right time and all the married guys may your relationship with your wife become stronger and grow everyday!

Wow Mazal Tov Bestrong88!!!

May you be zoche to build a household of Kedusha and continue to grow like weve seen here.

-Yiddle

PS. Have you told your Kallah about your GYE related past????

Yiddle,

Amen thank you!

I have not discussed my GYE related past...

Any suggestions?

BeStrong88 wrote on 15 Sep 2010 18:16:


I cannot speak from experience unfortunately so I cannot advise you on this. I was hoping you could give me some advise for my time....

I did tell her that I currently have an internet blocker, and would like to have one when we are married.

But no details about this issue.

Mazal tov!

As far as what to say, the ideal thing would be to ask a rebbe. My first thought would be not to lie, but not to necessarily bring it up. You've already mentioned having a filter, and you can say that you think it's really important. She may or may not realize something from that. She really doesn't need/want to know details, that's for sure.

Hey!!

So after I just clicked in that I reached 90 days , my Y"h got the best of me and i fell ...

I'm really down right now, i feel so terrible especially that now i am engaged ....

Chizuk would be great ...

lets put this in perspective.

1/90

in the past 3 months you fell once.

once.

it's called a *blip*.

come on. pick yourself up, wash your hands, clear your head, daven. as bardichev likes to say, keep on trucking.

mazel tov on your engagement, by the way. may your marriage be one of Shalom and Simcha, full of Beracha and Kedusha.

Mazal tov on finding your zivug. You should be zoche to build a true bais ne'eman b'yisroel.
The mean, nasty, SOB Yetzer Hora got you once but you beat him at least 90 times in the last 90 days and probably much more than that. A day that I only have to battle my Yetzer Hora once is a rare day. You are still on top and you know how to be strong. Keep trucking, as Bardichev always says.
My wife knows I'm part of GYE but she doesn't really know what it's all about. She doesn't need to know any details. We each have half of the K9 password so we can only change things together. Make sure your kalloh knows what a tzaddik she really is getting.
Be strong and be strong and be strong.

Be,

You know the name of the game. Don't let that Y"H get you. You are strong!

love you man,

Sturggle

So you fell.

So have many very special Yidden on this forum.  And they did not just get engaged (Mazel Tov, by the way) and have the pressures of entering into a whole new phase of life.  Cut yourself some slack.  Or as Rebbe Nachman would say, "There is no yeiush in the world."  "Don't give up hope"

You have a choice.  You could get all depressed about it, but all that will do is make it harder to continue to stay clean.  You can do it.  Do you know how I know.  Because you just did it.  You just completed 90 DAYS CLEAN!!!!  That is tremendous.  I also know, from experience, that the 2nd round of 90 days clean can be much easier, since you've done it before.

Chazak V'Amatz!!!

We say fell shmell for several reasons. The time that you were clean doesn't go away. The fact that you worked hard to rewire your brain hasn't disappeared overnight.

You already know that this is a test - how will you react in this situation, when you feel down? And i believe that you have the ability to grow, and to keep growing, and thanking hashem for everything that he keeps giving you - including this test!