parev wrote on 07 Jan 2025 19:12:

I'm sitting here and waiting (with bated breath , if I may add) for the PMs telling me how badly I screwed up the backlash.

And i'm sittin here waitin for my popcorn to be ready

On second thought, I can't summon the proper intentions to respond from a healthy place. Sorry.

The popcorn was good while it lasted.

Kol Tov

simchastorah wrote on 07 Jan 2025 19:54:

c'mon over I got plenny.
Salty oily and warm

simchastorah wrote on 07 Jan 2025 19:54:

*pop pop pop . . . DING!

Anyone need me to hold their popcorn while they mount the soapbox? I won't take any.... well maybe just a little if it's oilier than mine

simchastorah wrote on 07 Jan 2025 20:05:

Good luck knocking me off the box with those oily fingers

Well if you won't get off I do have an old potato crate lyin around somewheres

But sorry for highjackin the thread, where were we holding with thought provokin obscenities by the rustic fir tree?

chaimoigen wrote on 06 Jan 2025 22:51:

gye.nu/articles/questions-and-answers/item/what-s-permitted?category_id=36
CAVEAT : All of the above is for normal people who struggle with a normal Yetzer Hara. However for a real addict, Dov (who is clean for over 20 years in SA) says that seeking all sorts of leniencies and enhancements in the bedroom can make a person even sicker and the shalom bayis even worse. Initially it might seem to help, but it can create a monster and become a nightmare. Instead, a real addict has no choice but to learn how to surrender lust and focus more on others, especially his wife. However, this first requires the admission that he (or she) has a real personal problem, rather than just a question about 'sexuality and halocha'. To discuss if you may have an addiction issue or not, you can reach Dov at wequithiding@gmail.com.

Parev, I really don't understand
Here on your thread, a person made a normal, sane comment that those worried about not having intimacy on Nittel should know that it's better to have intimacy than p and m. Your response was totally unprovoked, not at all in line with what was being said, ending now with a quote that it's better not to look for heterim or think about what's assur and muttar, for we are here to work, man
Yet, in another section you go and quote the opinion of one kuntres, you have no idea who he is, and but there you feel it important to let the oilam know it might not be assur, though the chances that it doesn't feed the monster are close to nil, as you will surely know. 

Point is, it makes it hard for us to know if you are trying to be intellectually honest

i would love to speak to you
i wasn't sure if were ignoring my calls...

I don't ignore calls. I may be busy, and schedule limitations. But I don't ignore calls

eerie wrote on 20 Jan 2025 02:37:

Hmmm......