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How to speak to our children about these topics 30 Oct 2019 15:19 #344711

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I have the following question for the GYE chevra.  

I have young children.  When the time comes, how do I talk to them about these kedusha topics?  About the danger and destructiveness of porn and masturbation, etc. 

Growing up, I don't recall anybody addressing these sensitive issues with me.  Certainly not my parents.  Not that I blame them, but I wondered how things would have turned out, if I had been educated in a torahdik way about these things.  In "The Fight" series by R' Shafier, he mentions in passing how it is one of the greatest chessed a person can do, if he can have this talk with someone younger, before he ever has the chance to fall into this "black hole"

Can anyone here share what their experience was, whether they have given this talk with their children, or recieved one while they were still young?  What approach works well?

Re: How to speak to our children about these topics 30 Oct 2019 15:37 #344712

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And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...



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Re: How to speak to our children about these topics 30 Oct 2019 15:44 #344713

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Dave M wrote on 30 Oct 2019 15:19:
I have the following question for the GYE chevra.  

I have young children.  When the time comes, how do I talk to them about these kedusha topics?  About the danger and destructiveness of porn and masturbation, etc. 

Growing up, I don't recall anybody addressing these sensitive issues with me.  Certainly not my parents.  Not that I blame them, but I wondered how things would have turned out, if I had been educated in a torahdik way about these things.  In "The Fight" series by R' Shafier, he mentions in passing how it is one of the greatest chessed a person can do, if he can have this talk with someone younger, before he ever has the chance to fall into this "black hole"

Can anyone here share what their experience was, whether they have given this talk with their children, or recieved one while they were still young?  What approach works well?

great question,ill just mention what i heard but i am no authority on the matter,there are those who recommend a lengthy" bachur shmooze "
and there are those who feel a concentreted talk(a quickie) is enough since you dont want to put ideas in the bachurs head ,but from what i understood is that it has to be discussed.
here is a link to gyes ebooks on the subject under the category of prevention


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