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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 22 Oct 2020 02:16 #356558

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starting wrote on 21 Oct 2020 19:17:
This post, I believe was the most important post I have read anywhere.
Hit me hard. Until recently, even with good streaks, I still would have been describing what I'm not going to do in detail. Without even realising that I'm fantasising. 
This, I think, is the defining line between being drenched in list or living a serene, lust free life.
cordnoy wrote on 13 Aug 2014 22:18:

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FREE AT LAST (without bein' overconfident)

My wife goin' away
brings back memories
of all that i'd plan
on how I would please

.... 
in my olden days I'd get graphic
every detail I would share
but now that's no longer my focus
so we'll leave the past right there


Glad to hear it helped you.

For me, I say, "oish." How much has stayed the same and how much has changed.

Godspeed to you
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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 27 Oct 2020 20:48 #356758

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This thread is brilliant. instead of skimming through hundreds of threads you have bought the most powerful posts into one place. please keep them coming and yes talking on the phone cannot be compared to just posting on the forum as mentioned so beautifully earlier on in this thread.
Thanks so much to all of you who care so much.
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www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Recent posts that really resonate 28 Oct 2020 13:22 #356811

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שבע יפול צדיק וקם wrote on 27 Oct 2020 13:06:
Day #48.

The desire does not go away, but as the days go on it becomes less of an option.
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 28 Oct 2020 13:28 #356814

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wilnevergiveup wrote on 28 Oct 2020 05:24:
The main ides here is to nip it as early as you can. We all fall into the trap of "if I give in a little, it will leave me alone for a while". I don't really know why after all this time we still fall for it...  
I don't know anyone who fell who didn't first give in a little. On the other hand, anyone who succeeds does so by saying no.

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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 02 Nov 2020 17:24 #357002

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starting wrote on 02 Nov 2020 15:10:
Had a bit of a rough time last night, y"h found a reason for me to fall. 
There was a problem though, which he didn't reckon with; I don't do that stuff. It's not me. Finished. No. What the heck? What for? 
So I u have a list of things that people like me do aka distractions list and kept busy. 

Simple theory: I don't do x, I do do a, b & c. 

Hatzlocho 
I lost a 6 month streak. I will get back there. Not if, but when. When? Now.

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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 12 Nov 2020 20:57 #357349

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Grant400 wrote on 11 Nov 2020 20:31:
And what happens when you are confronted with something that you know is for sure bigger and harder than any urges you had before???

You remember how before starting everything seemed impossible and everything seemed too tremendous to overcome, but in reality it wasn't like that. So too in every single case, even if you tell yourself "this time is too much", remember how many times before now you thought the same thing. Yet you still overcame it.

Nothing is too big for us, we always have a choice.

                                   Grant
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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 20 Nov 2020 07:01 #357604

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From @iampowerless' signature :

“I avoid looking forward or backward, and try to keep looking upward.”

The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 24 Nov 2020 21:11 #357769

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GrowStrong wrote on 16 Jan 2017 14:43:


....And when today gets hard, just do it for a few more minutes the way you pulled it off last night...and now you have yesterday, forever!

The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 24 Nov 2020 22:40 #357774

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Gevura Shebyesod wrote on 25 Jan 2017 15:31:
This truck doesn't have a gearshift. It's not a sudden change. It's like a CVT, it shifts little by little. Each time t you make the right choices, you're making it easier for next time.

KOMCVTT!!
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 16 Dec 2020 06:23 #358811

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YeshivaGuy wrote on 16 Dec 2020 03:04:

People ask me “How did you do it? How did you overcome this particular nisayon?”

And the answer is,

I don’t know.

But I do know that it was this chevra here which debunked the lies I had been fed by the entertainment industry.

I am not a slave to lust.

I am the Baal HaBus over my Self.

The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 21 Dec 2020 06:33 #359265

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 03 Apr 2017 11:17:
I used to have the thought when reading posts of people who have been successful of "when will i be there?" Now the thought is "what do i need to do to get there?"
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 21 Dec 2020 13:56 #359281

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I think the real question we must ask ourselves when we reach 90 days is "Do I want to be someone who did 90 days and then goes back to being his old self or perhaps an improved version of his old self, or do I want to be like Hashem Help Me?"
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation 
https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: 
https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/
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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 22 Dec 2020 06:30 #359394

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Zedj wrote on 20 Dec 2020 19:02:
You can decide if you were successful or not.
If you are focused on not being mzl then I guess with a grain of salt you can say you were successful..?

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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 22 Dec 2020 16:30 #359415

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 22 Dec 2020 12:30:

90dys wrote on 18 Dec 2020 06:16:


....a lot of gentile entertainment might appear harmless to a secular person, but because we have a different neshama, we need to be more careful....

Emes L'amito! While that metzius can be misunderstood as "the sheltered kid going nuts when he gets exposed" (a talking point for the more liberal folks), your point is spot on! Our neshamos are delicate and therefore, suffer far more from what society believes to be benign.

A dust particle that falls on any revealed part of our skin is not even noticed. However if it falls into the eye, one can suffer immensely until it is removed. That speck of dust basically paralyzes a person for the duration of the blinking, washing, rubbing, etc until that nuisance is gone. And even then the itch remains for a while. Our spiritual eyes are no less sensitive than our physical eyes. An inappropriate image - and that does mean pornographic, rather any inappropriate image can chas v'shalom wreak havoc on our spiritual balance and paralyze us. And yes chaverim, the world is a dusty place. The least we can do, is follow the directives of chazal - "Ika darka acharina", and avoid unnecessary sights whether online or in real life, by planning in advance where we want to go and how we are getting there. That, and davening each day "V'lo li'yedei nisayon" is what Hashem wants from His tzaddikim in 2020. 
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
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Re: Recent posts that really resonate 23 Dec 2020 07:15 #359485

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gibbor120 wrote on 12 Sep 2013 17:22:
While a filter is obviously not foolproof, it is a wise idea even for techies who can get around it. It still makes it more difficult and puts at least a "heker" between us and porn.

I am considering removing the railing by my staircase. It should be my responsibility not to walk too close to the edge of the stairs, and I can always jump over the railing anyways if I really want to. Just sayin .

my $.02.
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