Oslost wrote:
When you see a woman on the street, or anywhere for that matter, who triggers you, look for something red: a street sign, a traffic light, brake light, fire hydrant, whatever. Use it to distract you from looking at the woman; bounce your eyes to it.
Avoid looking at women long enough and you effectively "starve your eyes"; for married men, this typically increases the attractiveness of your wife to you, a further incentive.
It takes discipline though. I struggle to bounce my eyes because the addicted part of me tells me I'm missing out on something, that each woman offers a special delight for my eyes. But, in actuality, it's a relief to bounce away from the trigger.
I heard from the famous Rav Rabbi Shimshon Pincus that if you are walking in the street and your eye grasps sight of a woman or some picture on inappropriate advertising sign etc. and you look away, the merit is so great that you have the right to ask of G-d at that moment ANY request you want, and you have a great chance of your request being granted.
Thanks for sharing.