I am sorry for asking then
my point was going to be that if it bothers you, have a discussion with her
whatever
and no, my wife is not available for me whenever I knock
B"H we have have had a good week
have a gut vach
b'hatzlachah

You really can't have a point when you can't write enough words.

Getting angry is a sure way to sin, especially of this kind of nature. Since we are in an anonymous forum, you might as well treat those who are trying to help you kindly and it will lower your desire.

Then Hashem will do the same for you.

The way I understood, Cordnoy was asking how it came to the situation where you SAW your wife "wearing something attractive" and had the urge.

If you 2 decide it's best to change privately or that certain "too attractive clothes" are for "special occasions", then lust should be less likely to arise.

You are so right, if you are not used to listening to your inner thoughts you can get angry. I think cordnoy understood that he triggered me by being economical with his words, which gave me an opportunity to jump to conclusions. If he had not understood it I would have reported him to the moderator. As fas as I am concerned the matter is closed.

Since the matter is closed, I will not bother to explain what I meant, but triggering you was the farthest thing from my mind.
Report me to the moderator?
And regarding my writing enough words, all I have to say is that I write here to be understood and to be helped.

And Kedushas Yesod....thanks