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Talking to Hashem (not davening)
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Re: Talking to Hashem (not davening) 08 Jan 2014 04:23 #226291

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That is great news. Try to talk to Him everyday. It is really just an amazing thing to do.
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: Talking to Hashem (not davening) 09 Jan 2014 06:27 #226332

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If one works on kavanah in the accepted Nusach HaTefilah, one must realize that there are two places for asking for HaShem to help you ( Refaeinu and Shmoea Tefilah). It is also critically important to remember that HaShem is Shmoea Tefilah, but certainly not a Mkabel Tefilah. As Rashi points out in discussing Yaakov Avinu's preparations for his reunion with Rsau HaRasha, that one must engage both in Hishtadlus and Tefilah, as opposed to relying on either Histhtadlus or Tefilah alone.

Re: Talking to Hashem (not davening) 13 Feb 2014 22:40 #227656

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Continued from Yaakov's Ladder

I said "Ribono Shel Olam, I have been looking at females, at certain parts of females, and I won't want to be doing that. I know that I have this feeling of entitlement to respect and compliments and I didn't get it. In order to protect that feeling, which I feel I need to do, I am giving it something else which it enjoys.

I know that I cannot take away the feeling, it is built into me, but I know that you can. I ask you to help me remember that all I am doing is living the way I should, nothing more than that, and that doesn't entitle me to anything. Please take away the feeling of entitlement so that I can continue to live the life that you give me the right way."

I felt so calm, so not needy after that....He had accepted!!!

THANK YOU HASHEM!!!
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Last Edit: 13 Feb 2014 22:42 by Pidaini.

Re: Talking to Hashem (not davening) 12 Mar 2015 02:07 #250364

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Hi Yankel,

Don't be a stranger...................

Re: Talking to Hashem (not davening) 08 Apr 2015 02:46 #251942

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I remember a story that could not be better suited for this thread if I made it up.


A holy rabbi was standing at the Western Wall, saying Tehillim with as much concentration that he could. At one point old man walk up next to him. The old man faced the Western Wall and start to talk. At first the rabbi was confused, thinking that this stranger was talking to him. Then he heard some of the conversation and realized that the old man was talking to Hashem.

He sounded just like how someone would sound talking to a friend from across the table. At one point the old man stopped and thought for a moment. He then said, 'I am sorry. I told You about that yesterday.' The rabbi carefully listened to this old man in awe. Eventually the old man left. The rabbi turned back to his Siddur. In stunned silence, he realized that he had never truly prayed to Hashem before.
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: Talking to Hashem (not davening) 10 Jan 2016 03:15 #273792

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Pidaini wrote:
I wanted to share what has been helping me lately.

As I have written in a recent post, I was having quite a rough time, I had slipped a few nights in a row. I was tired of youtube already and the next step was......I was in a situation where if someone were to tell me that they were at that point, I would have not been able to give them any advice.

But I went into my car, and I talked to Hashem (see aforementioned post for details of the conversation) and I am happy to say that I am sober.

I have used this a few times since then, with %100 success BH.

Here is what I have found to be helpful.

I found that every discussion included my telling Hashem three main points:

1) My fears/resenments

2) My desires (which are coming because of my f/r)

3) Asking Hashem to carry me through

I found the first two dificult to do, the first because when I started saying them I realized that it was silly that I was worrying about them/letting them get to me. But I let it out, I told them to Him, and excused myself that I am human and cannot always see and trust Hashem, therefore these things do affect me.

The second I found dificult because I had to let it all out, "I want to look at naked women and to calm me down from You" and saying that brought it to my attention for real, forcing me to really see what I was ready and likely to do.

The third came automatically after the second, I realized I have a problem, and that if I stayed within myself I would do that, I only had one choice. It was a wholesome, real Prayer.

A few people have already asked some questions about the idea, and as I don't have too many answers I wanted to share and hear from the oilam.


Although Gibbor said that this is similar to davanin' except that it is done w/o a minyan and not at right time, I like Pidaini's perspective on this.
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Re: Talking to Hashem (not davening) 10 Jan 2016 03:50 #273795

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Pidaini wrote:
I wanted to share what has been helping me lately.

As I have written in a recent post, I was having quite a rough time, I had slipped a few nights in a row. I was tired of youtube already and the next step was......I was in a situation where if someone were to tell me that they were at that point, I would have not been able to give them any advice.

But I went into my car, and I talked to Hashem (see aforementioned post for details of the conversation) and I am happy to say that I am sober.

I have used this a few times since then, with %100 success BH.

Here is what I have found to be helpful.

I found that every discussion included my telling Hashem three main points:

1) My fears/resenments

2) My desires (which are coming because of my f/r)

3) Asking Hashem to carry me through

I found the first two dificult to do, the first because when I started saying them I realized that it was silly that I was worrying about them/letting them get to me. But I let it out, I told them to Him, and excused myself that I am human and cannot always see and trust Hashem, therefore these things do affect me.

The second I found dificult because I had to let it all out, "I want to look at naked women and to calm me down from You" and saying that brought it to my attention for real, forcing me to really see what I was ready and likely to do.

The third came automatically after the second, I realized I have a problem, and that if I stayed within myself I would do that, I only had one choice. It was a wholesome, real Prayer.

A few people have already asked some questions about the idea, and as I don't have too many answers I wanted to share and hear from the oilam.


I fine when all else is falling apart, the One promised I, and none else, no other deliverance, while it is good to take advantage of all resources, we have One intimately responsible for us, that is the promise of One, so keep the relationship of life, and grow in it.
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Re: Talking to Hashem (not davening) 10 Jan 2016 03:56 #273797

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We have a friend to the end, and when One is our friend, all other imaginary one cannot equal the beauty of our talk, walk! Like Joseph, how can I sin against my Maker, my friend.
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