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are you in israel?

Dear 'ZemirosYomTov' or 'PeirosTish' or 'ShabbosdiggerNiggun',

Congrats on the longest GYE username. That means that you have to have the longest GYE clean streak as well!

guardureyes wrote on 23 Mar 2011 20:22:


Why is that?

i dont understand!
its pesach, yea i know...! but where is the action???
ppl have no strugle when they eat matza ?
come on rock the gye!
action!

Hello, I am Mb and i'm new to the forums. this forum seems fun to hang out.

lol
fun? did u read this thread? whats the fun?

ups i dont know how to welcome a new comer... so ill just tell you read the 12 steps here on the site and get the handbook! it will help you tons! (you should open a new thread and introduce your self there is lovely ppl here who will help u and guide u, i dont know how)

mbalegria wrote on 30 Apr 2011 19:38:
Are you in Algeria? That sounds like fun right there!

what should i say my dear fellow jews, i cant move, im stuck, porn and mastubation are just part of my life like eating and sleeping, i wanna get a attack of wanting to get better, but i just dont get it....

shavuot is almost here and yom kippur is almost here and 0 nada nothing.

i remember that many yom kipur i use to do tshuva, and i used to say to hashem: liscen u know i wanna be good, but the internet i cant promiss....

any way im writting all this cause no boddy isnt saying something that upsets me and i can reply, so i decided to write whats on my belly and heart.


jealous of many of u guys who are having a nice life for years (i only had a nice life for about a month or 2)

Dear chevra,

I saw the name on the new post here....but as I committed earlier, I have not read Laagvokeless's post. But....as I really do love him very much, will someone else here just please try to help this guy?!

Respectfully,

Dov

Hey Laag,

I don't know what kind of things you are up to in trying to recover from addiction.  But take note of some of the guys who have the kind of serenity and happiness you want, call them, find out what they are doing and then just copy what is working for them.  It is not very scientific but it is likely to get you somewhere.

For me the most difficult part of this advice would be overcoming my arrogance which gets in the way of taking advice from others. But nu....that is the way addicts are.  When we finally hit bottom (no specific point, just when we are sick and tired of the pain) we come around to being being Honest Open and Willing.  HOW recovery works.

Good luck!

gggg if dov dosnt fight with me, this is gonna get really boring....
maybe the jester will fight to the point? or reb yid? u r a jew?alex eliezer?
bards, durdaya  would just atack פאר פייער אין פאר וואסער with no point just boom boom booom kot kot kot BUT I LOVE IT TOO

zemmy and yosef would be cute and helpfool

;D

jooboy, do u have a recipee or a poisen or whatever, it should give me the first push to want to change?
you see im so IN IT that i hardly can move... i just KNOW its wrong i dont FEEL its wrong
you dont have to answer me like: you wanna wait till your wife catches u on action.... its not helpfool
the trouth is i dont think there is any answer at all, i just gotta get it my self, but u can daven for לעג וקלס בן בושה וחרפה

laagvokeles wrote on 15 May 2011 21:57:


That was totally incomprehensible.

It also doesn't sound like your first post in which you sounded desperate to change, just like you're looking for a good debate to keep you distracted for a few minutes so that you look at something on the net other than  porn.

But the first thing that anyone who really wants to change has to ask himself is "Why should I change?". You say that you know it's wrong, just that you don't 'feel' that it's wrong. If so, good for you! Your conscience doesn't bother you, so go have 'fun'. You knew it was wrong all along anyways! What has changed now? Shavuos is coming up? Yom Kippur is coming up? They haven't changed any. They've been happening on the same date since Hashem gave us the Torah 3323 years ago...

So eat, sleep, and masturbate -for tomorrow you shall die (with apologies to Yeshayahu HaNavi)! Why does that bother you at all? Because it's wrong? Because Hashem doesn't let?

So stop!

Ay, you can't stop even though you want to and you know it's wrong?

Then maybe you are an addict?

E

durdaya since her נפיחה you got very very rough 

any way dont get me wrong, for sure i have a bad concience, my wife loves me and believe me when i tell you that i am from the very few with such wonderfool wife... (talking about midot)
and hashem.... oh dont ask i am in a bechina in many many ways of מאשפות ירים אביון, he really did a lot for me even in a regular human eye, and besides i know im gonna burn in hell, so i really am not in favor of my situation, but מצד שני  to stop this p---- and ma----- is not simple and כרגע it is just eazzyer (קל יותר)  to let the river flow....

now durdaya u are a smart guy, no? so why all this yelling? if i would be in your place, after such post i would only give chizuk, like per example:
dear laag i feel what u feel, and i  am really sorry for you, cause even if u dont see it, this porn and masturbation take away a lot of koach from you a lot of energy that could go in good places,  also your rucniut life would be much more satisfieeng          (משביע) cause you would be really atached to hashem.    you would also give more love to your wife, so  no matter how good your shalom bait is now, it would have been even better if u would be sober.

stuff like this

(as i know durdaya you will quote me and make my own post for your post....   )

laagvokeles wrote on 16 May 2011 09:03:


Who's yelling? You call that yelling?

Dear Laag,

Fortunately, I don't feel what you feel. I  am really sorry for you, because you don't see that this porn and masturbation aren't just taking a lot of koach from you and a lot of energy that could be better used in good places, they are actually killing you. Not only would your ruchnius life be much more satisfying if you would stop, you would plain and simple get a life! Recovery really attaches you to Hashem and others. You would also be able to start giving some love to your wife, instead of lusting after those shiktzas. I can't imagine that you have shalom bayis now, but if you do, it must be b'geder "Shomer Pesaim Hashem". Of course it would be better if you could be sober, but first you have to realize that you aren't just a ba'al taivah or baal aveirah, but a porn-drunk.

Best Regards,

Elazar ben Durdayah

laagvokeles wrote on 16 May 2011 09:03:


I must admit that until I saw this line I was tempted to...