bb, i was planning on arranging one for after pesach, i thought it would suit ppl better
it looks as if we have about 15 gye's here in EY
we can have it either on lebanese border, ashkelon, gush katif, or someone's house
if only i made the time to chairperson it....

There are hundreds of GYE men in Eretz Yisroel. Count me in for any party with plenty of food and no women. I live in Kever Rashbi in Meron. Rent is free but there's no privacy for GYE events.

Blind Beggar wrote on 05 Apr 2011 15:25:


Then... what do you do for Lag B'Omer?

I stay on the men's side of the mechitza and dance and daven like everyone else.

12 days ago I fell from using Facebook, and the next morning I was learning Tomer Devorah which inspired me to get K9 to block both Facebook and Flickr. The Remak explains one of Hashem's middos using a gemora which is the daily daf this week, so I have posted it in the Bais Medrash here: www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=3104.msg103308#msg103308

Does that mean you blocked facebook?

That's great!

--Eye.

i must relate an experience
the last three weeks i have only used gmail and gye, and i almost forgot there was something called internet
was the best feeling of my life when i realized

its like when u wake up, feel good, and then go back to sleep and do it again

so im gonna forget about this experiencs and try to remember it again in a couple weeks

Beautiful post!!

It's nice to be free, no? Actually, once we are free for a bit, it becomes hard to believe that we'd ever want to go back to slavery....but we will, nebach. No matter how smart we are. When it comes to lust we are stupid. I believe that total relapse is guaranteed, if not for staying with Hashem - even very, very imperfectly. Actually, especially imperfectly! Karov Hashem l'chol kor'av...b'Emess. (In my siddur it is written on the side of that possuk: even me. Cuz I never really believed he was for me. Dodi li!)

Till I was ready to give up "the lusting fun and adventure," I called to Him but not at all b'Emess. Whining is not tefillah, at all - even whining to Him!

Ole'!!!

It's time to explain my new signature.
1) If I see a woman I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
2) I can guard my eyes.
3) I want to guard my eyes.
4) I do guard my eyes.

1) Is the first step of SA. I am powerless over lust, once I start, I cannot stop.

2) My reaction is not to look, like an alcoholic who cannot have only one drink. He can have none or he can go on a drunken binge. Elya explained 1) and 2) in Chizuk Email 998.
I asked him:
Hello Reb Elya, I have a question with the First Step, which is where I am holding in SA: I feel well armed to fight the lust battle, with:

• TaPhSiC method  and


• the Three Second Rule  and


• I can take off my glasses and


• post on the Forum and


• call chaverim 24/6 and
  


• I read the chizuk emails and
  


• I have the K9 filter  and
  


• WebChaver and more...

But then the First Step tells me I am powerless. I should lie down on the floor and cry in surrender, let go and let God, give up the fight, throw down my weapons and wave a white flag. How do these two ideas fit together?

And he answered me:

You are powerless THEREFORE you must use these methods, the 3 second rule, glasses, keep in touch with others who can guide you, filters to guard you, etc.Powerless means you cannot do this on your own, you (we) need help from others and a Higher Power.  Since you've put all of these things in place it's as if you have waved a white flag and pronounced you are powerless and ask G-d to help. Once you're away from lustful thoughts and pictures and lust itself, it becomes easier. This is G-d helping you. 

After talking with aa1977 we realized two more important points:
                                   
3) Rebbe Nachman z"l said we need to have a yearning to to Hashem's will and we need to verbalize it. "I want to guard my eyes".

4) Rebbe Nachman z"l said to search for the good points in all people, including ourselves. This is the "affirm" stage of the 3 second rule. "I do guard my eyes"

Finally, the avatar that I have been waiting for.
It is still Meron, but if you look closely you can see the two pesukim that are painted over the archway. If you want to know the origin, meaning and significance of the pesukim, look in Lekutei Moharan on the page before Torah 1.

use it in good health, sobriety and simcha!

IMPORTANT MESSAGE FOR FIRSTBORNS


If you find yourself listening to a siyum on Maseches Avoda Zora (Talmud Bavli), about sticking knives into the ground, as soon as you hear the end of the Gemora, walk away before you hear the Rashi. The last Rashi is very triggering.


And have a great Pesach!

Everybody! Make sure to check that Rashi out now!

...just being naughty. Sorry....

toiro is never triggering

Aderaba; toiro, Tora, Torah, and תורה are often very triggering because it is written for normal Yidden. I have fallen from hearing siyumim on that masechta and from other sugios in the Gemora. Some/many/most/all Chassidishe yeshivos don't teach Seder Noshim to bochurim. I used to have taaynos against Litvishe yeshivos for teaching Kiddushin and Kesuvos until I realized that I am the sick one and they are dealing with normal bochurim. Even litvishe yeshivos don't teach maseches Niddah to bochrim (although it is a lot less triggering to me than much of Seder Noshim).