That's it!  That's it!  That's it!  That's why I like this site so much! 

It is beautiful!

It was great to talk to you.  How are you?

    Almost everyone here is struggling with Yiddishkeit, especially תאות נשים and we don't see the other people in our shul or beis medrash who are struggling. Maybe they also are but they don't want to tell anyone. Or maybe they are not struggling with Yiddskeit at all.
    What is best? It is far better to struggle because we are actively serving Hashem with all our strength. We are the biggest ovdei Hashem.
    I am proud to be a member of such a group of ovdei Hashem.

Blind Beggar wrote on 28 Oct 2010 08:35:

Thanks BB.

So am I.

I have often felt the same way. I'm proud to know (anonymously) everyone here, people who are focused on growing and getting healthy and close to hashem.

I just heard a mussar shuir tonight and the rov was saying that making a chesbon hanefesh can be very depressing since we see how lacking we are. At the same time it should bring us to simcha since at least we are making the chesbon. Its the same unfortunately we are addicts but at the same time we are here working on the problem. And that is what the RBSO wants from us to work on the problem. Ashreinu Ma Tov Chelkainu.

Blind Beggar wrote on 28 Oct 2010 08:35:


That we get to count you among us, giving us such chizuk, blesses us all.  Thanks for the beautiful post. 

RE: the mussar shmooz and cheshbon hanefesh

I can't remember who said it, but if you look at the story of Yosef and Potifars wife, we know that there's an opinion that he had just decided to give in. He couldn't take it any more. If you look at the Targum of the passuk ויבא הביתה לעשות מלאכתו, he says, "ועל לביתיה למבדק בכתבי חושבניה" I.e. Yoseif was making a cheshbon hanefesh, but this brought him down - he lost some of his simcha and was therefore easy prey for the Yetser Hora - he headed straight for her room.

For us, the nimshal is easy to understand. Making an honest cheshbon hanefesh is essential, but we need to know how to do it with an eye of compassion, so it doesn't make us fall, lose our optimism and make us easy prey for you know who.

Thanks for reminding me of this pshat.

AA

How could it be that this thread ends on Nov 1?  Did you move to a different page?

I went to a sholom zochor this Friday night. From where I was sitting I could just get a peek at a small part of a woman in the kitchen.
She was wearing a light, silky smooth shaitel. Looking further down I saw [i]Admin: Deleted trigger.[/i]] and her [i]Admin: Delete.....delete....delete[/i]] and her [i]Admin: Another trigger, Delete[/i]] really took my breath away.
Then she stood up and faced me........and I saw she was about 60 years old! Probably the grandmother of the baby. It was all fake. The yetzer hora making a mountain out of a molehill. Sheker, sheker, sheker, that's all the yetzer hora really is.

LOL  ;D.

That's an amazing lesson, even when everything looks fantastic...it's all fake.

thank you!

Just letting you know I'm in touch.  That's a great story.  I liked the [admin delete] parts.

Boruch Hashem, after 141 days with GYE I finally made 90 days.
About 6 years ago I found the sefer והאר עינינו and I devoured the sefer, a new positive approach to shmiras einayim. I was clean for all of Tammuz, Av and Elul and I had the first, and so far only, real Yom Kippur of my life.
But there was no GYE back then. No handbooks and no 90 day chart. No daily emails and no tips. Most importantly, I was all alone. There was no Forum to post on, to read posts on, to send PMs on. There were no kumzitzen to meet real people on and no one to call on the phone. In the middle of Cheshvan, I fell.
141 days ago I found GYE, and this is the second time in over 30 years that I have had 90 clean days.
Thank you everyone in GYE and on the Forum. Let's continue together to serve Hashem.