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Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 12 May 2011 05:57 #105767

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Blind Beggar wrote on 14 Apr 2011 12:08:

I went on a walking trip today, only men and boys. There were about 8 chareidi men and 25 children and one woman collecting the money for the guide. I am sure she was dressed according to the letter of the laws of tznius and probably according to the spirit also (I didn't check) but she was a real problem for me. Seven men standing normally and not the least bit disturbed and me with my glasses off turning so that my head was always pointing away from her until she left. Why am I different? Thank you Hashem for choosing me to serve you this way!

I would like to add that I had to give this woman money for the trip and she asked me to change a big bill for her to give change to others. That caused me no problem at all. That was a normal interaction between two people. It was when I was not talking to her that she became a problem.

The moral of the story is not to talk to every woman that we see but to realize that they are ordinary people like me and you.

The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?

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Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 12 May 2011 06:31 #105770

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Very true - and that they have the right to be respected as a real person. This is regardless of whether the woman herself might appreciate the attention - she still deserves better!
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Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 24 May 2011 16:45 #106734

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	hi reb BB, how is the week of Yesod treating you?
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ Last Edit: by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 24 May 2011 17:19 #106742

Blind Beggar OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Not a sexaholic, just trying to be good. Posts: 780 Karma: 12	ZemirosShabbos wrote on 24 May 2011 16:45: hi reb BB, how is the week of Yesod treating you? Every day is a challange. Every woman and every girl. I am clean for 60 days for the third time in 30 years, by the grace of God and the help of GYE and SA.
	The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars. If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look. I can guard my eyes. I want to guard my eyes. I do guard my eyes. Why do I say these four lines? Last Edit: 25 May 2011 10:07 by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 24 May 2011 17:26 #106743

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	gevaldiggggg תמשיך טראקקינג
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ Last Edit: by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 24 May 2011 22:42 #106775

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Blind Beggar wrote on 24 May 2011 17:19:

Every day is a challange. Every woman and every girl.

I am clean for 60 days for the third time in 30 years, by the grace of God and the help of GYE and SA.

I assume you realize that no woman and no girl are a challenge for you.

The only challenge in the room is you. Your mind is the challenge.

They are just people living their real lives. You and I are the ones over here with the silly mistaken attitudes towards them who live in fantasy - or struggle to break free of it....also an unnatural state to remain in for very long.

Maybe it's just semantics.

Love you,

Dov

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

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Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 25 May 2011 05:14 #106808

Eye.nonymous OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 2696 Karma: 15	Blind Beggar wrote on 24 May 2011 17:19: I am clean for 60 days for the third time in 30 years, by the grace of God and the help of GYE and SA. Congrats!
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Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 26 May 2011 07:01 #106953

Blind Beggar OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Not a sexaholic, just trying to be good. Posts: 780 Karma: 12	I am clean for 62 days, by the grace of God. My mind challenges me to lust every time I see a woman and only Hashem can help me to be shomer my einayim. Each day is a challenge to stay out of Hashem's way and let Him help me. I love you too, Dov.
	The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars. If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look. I can guard my eyes. I want to guard my eyes. I do guard my eyes. Why do I say these four lines? Last Edit: by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 26 May 2011 13:39 #106969

shteeble OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 2024 Karma: 30	Yes, the challenged are there at every turn. Yes, continue asking H' for support. Mishohn umivtach laTzaddikim. Tamshich Trucking. Attachments: Tamshich Trucking.bmp (17KB)
	some of my threads Last Edit: by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 27 May 2011 19:25 #107177

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	And we both love this shteeble guy who use to be a velt...now he's just a little shteeble. Like Har Sinai, the little mountain. Just in time for Shavee'ess.
	"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same." Last Edit: by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 27 May 2011 20:22 #107183

shteeble OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 2024 Karma: 30	It's good to be loved!
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Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 30 May 2011 11:32 #107354

Blind Beggar OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Not a sexaholic, just trying to be good. Posts: 780 Karma: 12	66 days sober, by the grace of God. Who knows what tomorrow will bring?
	The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars. If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look. I can guard my eyes. I want to guard my eyes. I do guard my eyes. Why do I say these four lines? Last Edit: by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 30 May 2011 11:36 #107356

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	It seems to bring tomorrow, usually....
	"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same." Last Edit: by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 30 May 2011 11:41 #107359

Blind Beggar OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Not a sexaholic, just trying to be good. Posts: 780 Karma: 12	Today I will try not to lust after, objectify or deify any woman or girl. Tomorrow I will try not to lust after, objectify or deify any woman or girl.
	The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars. If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look. I can guard my eyes. I want to guard my eyes. I do guard my eyes. Why do I say these four lines? Last Edit: by .

Re: Hello from Blind Beggar 30 May 2011 15:14 #107377

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The only insurance and tefila you can make today that may have some chance of being effective to improve tomorrow is doing right today. That's it.

In frum words, the only segula for tomorrow's sobriety is today's.

Not so for the white-knuckler, lo aleinu R"l, for those guys the more days they hold back, the more desperate to act out they become! For them, counting the days is the disease and the cause of their future acting out itself!

Bar minon.

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

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