I am a Chassidic Ingerman and I am still in kollel, but I am facing a major problem. Since the age of 13, I have been influenced by bad friends and it has continued to this day. Despite being a good student in yeshiva, I have been struggling with lust and other negative behaviors due to these bad influences.

2 years ago I got married to a nice good girl and I was sure the problem was over and, in the beginning, it was really good, but then it started much worse than before I'm too shy to tell all the details of what was happening

last week I found this place I was so  excited, that Hashem sent me the right place, looking forward to getting back on track

Welcome!
If you really want to work on kicking the bad habits, and moving on in life you have come to the right place!
You will discover understanding, empathetic, and remarkably helpful people here that will hold your hand.

Keep on posting and you're on the right path!

Welcome!

Welcome! Try strengthening yourself with these great free resources:

1) The Battle of the Generation: a sensational free ebook that seriously gets you excited to fight and win this fight. It's a real game-changer.

2) The Fight: an incredible audio series from Rabbi Shafier.

Links are below in my signature.
Wishing you much success!

The million-dollar question is where to start to live a life with KDISHE, not with these bad things.

It was courageous of you to post. A large percentage of the people posting are in chinuch and there is nothing to be shy about. Chazal say לא הביישן למד. Rebbe Elimelech of Luzensk says in Tzetil Katan to share everything with someone you trust. You can do so on the forum and with the main mentor Hashem Help Me when you feel ready to do so. Many people have also reached out to Eerie. It is a game-changer to be honest and open with people about our shortcomings. 

Read through some threads. The Flight to Freedom program is also very helpful. I couldn't have broken free without it. Keep on posting and sharing. Wishing you Hatzlacha on your journey.

kolellingerman11211 wrote on 04 Feb 2024 16:56:

You have already started. The best next step would probably be to reach out to someone. Are you willing to talk to a mentor that can guide you, on the phone? 

I'm new here too. I waited way too long to join and I wish I would have joined earlier. Hatzlacha Rabba!

I would recommend looking into the Flight to Freedom program, which is designed to help you reach freedom from, by teaching you the skills you need to make a change that will last for the long term.

davidt wrote on 04 Feb 2024 18:22:

Welcome! You have just joined the most amazing family of YH fighters! Wonderful first step to post. I second the suggestion of DavidT. Talking to someone live is a game changer. When you'll be ready for it jump in!
Keep us posted, my friend

Welcome! 

​You're definitely in the right place!

Plz continue sharing ur story... and reach out when you feel ready! It's life changing!!!

Start where you can work your way from there. 

2 years ago I got married to a nice good girl and I was sure the problem was over and, in the beginning, it was really good, but then it started much worse than before I'm too shy to tell all the details of what was happening

You will find this is a VERY common theme and you are far from alone in thinking that marriage would fix the issue. It actually makes it worse because it brings yiush to a whole new level when the one hope you had prior to marriage is blown to bits!

Please continue to share!

back to day 1

Great attitude. Let's get moving b'ezras Hashem. Do you speak with anyone?